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What It All Means, NOM Marriage News, October 25, 2013

National Organization for Marriage

Dear Marriage Supporter,

This week the battle for marriage in our country has taught us quite a lot about what this fight means for us and for our country. It has also taught us a lot about the meaning of some other things we take for granted.

What Leadership Means

In New Jersey this week, we learned the meaning of leadership — or, rather, its opposite. Governor Chris Christie on Monday abandoned his principles and the people of New Jersey to the whims of an activist Judiciary when he withdrew his administration's appeal to the Supreme Court of a lower ruling that had ordered same-sex 'marriages' to begin in the Garden State.

As I noted in my comments on the decision Monday, "The mark of a leader is to walk a principled walk no matter the difficulty of the path. Chris Christie has failed the test, abandoning both voters and the core institution of society — marriage as the union of one man and one woman."

To be fair, Christie is not responsible for redefining marriage — that was accomplished by an out-of-control judiciary. However, he is responsible for leaving the field of battle and refusing to fight a principled fight when it was most needed. By surrendering, he has guaranteed defeat in the Garden State.

But while this surrender proved to demonstrate what leadership is not, the same day provided a contrasting image of leadership worth celebrating: that, from Pennsylvania's governor, Tom Corbett.

Governor Corbett was pressured following the Christie administration's announcement to follow suit in Pennsylvania and give up the Pennsylvania government's defense of the standing law in that state that defines marriage as between a man and a woman. But Corbett isn't backing down. He said that the case in New Jersey was "no precedent" for what is going on in Pennsylvania and that he would see the case there through the full process of judicial review. Thank you Governor Corbett for demonstrating what it really means to be a leader!

What Privacy Means

Recently I wrote to our California supporters to urge them to support NOM's efforts in California as part of a coalition to defend students' privacy there against a heinous law recently passed which allows any student to use the shower, bathroom or locker room of his or her choice regardless of biological sex!

We are working with the Privacy for All Students coalition supporting a ballot referendum to overturn this dangerous and invasive new law. Certainly students with gender-identity confusion shouldn't be subjected to bullying or discrimination, but California law already protects students from such discrimination and bullying. Rather than protect against bullying, the new law IS bullying! It violates student privacy and security by forcing them to share the most vulnerable areas of school with members of the opposite sex. Imagine being a high school girl forced to undress before the eyes of an opposite-sex peer, and to be told that his so-called "gender identity" entitles him to shower next to you. Worse, if you complain, you might be accused of discrimination against him!

This is an outrageous new law that is terribly conceived and horribly flawed. It just shows you how much the homosexual lobby thinks it can get away with in advancing their agenda.

Please visit today to find out how you can help us ensure every student in California has the right to his or her privacy upheld and protected by the law! If you live in California, please download a petition and return it promptly. And please consider making a contribution to help the campaign be sure they collect the signatures they need.

What Liberal Thought Means

A remarkable essay earlier this month deserves to be read and re-read by every marriage advocate in our country. It is a great resource for engaging in conversation and debate about this issue, whether at home, at school, around the water-cooler at work, or in the public square.

The essay by James Kalb was published in the Catholic World Report on October 2nd and it eviscerates the liberal thinking that has too long dominated our nation's public discourse, and undergirded the Supreme Court's decisions in June against DOMA and Proposition 8:

Liberal thought is entrenched as the basis for public discussion, and it doesn't like the idea of a network of expectations and obligations to which people are subject other than those generated by state and market. What's just, liberals believe, is for individuals to be free from all social pressure in their private lives as long as they perform their duties as employees, taxpayers, and citizens of a diverse, tolerant, and multicultural society. If people are pressured to act one way or another for some reason other than the needs of liberal institutions, that's bigotry and discrimination, and eradicating it is one of the central duties of government.

However strong and entrenched that way of thinking is, it needs to be disputed and overthrown.

Kalb explains what we lose when we trade age-old institutions like marriage, which pre-exist the state, for a modern notion of rights and privileges which the State arbitrarily creates out of thin air:

If marriage is to be something we can rely on, it can't be a sentimental celebration or optional lifestyle choice whose content depends on the orientation and goals of the parties. It has to be understood as something definite that, simply because of what it is, has intrinsic functions that are basic to human life. To be itself, it must therefore be understood as a union of man and woman that accepts the natural consequences of such a union, and there have to be distinct understandings of men, women, the relations between the two, and what they owe and have a right to expect from each other.

Be sure to read the whole wonderful piece today.

What Fatherhood Means

An article in the Washington Times this week revealed growing concern about "irresponsible fatherhood" in our country and lamented that "despite myriad efforts by fatherhood programs, too many men are ending up in multiple relationships, with multiple children from multiple mothers."

What the article failed to mention was that efforts to protect and promote fatherhood are distinctly at odds with the drive to redefine marriage. Because when marriage is redefined, so is the meaning of fatherhood. Rather than the father being a unique and irreplaceable role in the life of a child, a father becomes merely "Spouse 1" or "Spouse 2" — interchangeable and replaceable, an optional role easily replaced in an 'alternative family' model.

But we did have two shining examples of fatherhood this week, of a kind: spiritual fatherhood. Two great pastoral leaders gave shining examples of what it means to care for the 'children' given to one in ministry.

Bishop Thomas J. Paprocki of Springfield, IL responded with a strong press statement to a planned same-sex 'marriage' protest at his Cathedral on Tuesday — part of a larger effort of lobbying by same-sex 'marriage' activists in Illinois who are beginning to see the writing on the wall that gay 'marriage' advocates simply don't have the votes to redefine marriage in this fall session.

In response to plans by a group named the Rainbow Sash Movement to disrupt the Cathedral's religious services on Tuesday, Paprocki announced:

People wearing a rainbow sash or who otherwise identify themselves as affiliated with the Rainbow Sash Movement will not be admitted into the cathedral and anyone who gets up to pray for same-sex marriage in the cathedral will be asked to leave.

Of course, our cathedral and parish churches are always open to everyone who wishes to repent their sins and ask for God's forgiveness.

Meanwhile, in Virginia, another spiritual leader has taken a strong stand in the face of plans to undermine true marriage there.

I've told you before about plans by the Richmond City Council to use a same-sex 'marriage' ordinance as a political power play. Well, the members preparing the ordinance are still at it; and that attracted a strong response from a local pastor, Bishop Daryl Husband, Sr. of Mount Olivet Church in Richmond.

Writing at the blog of the Coalition for African American Pastors, Bishop Husband had this to say about the ordinance:

Today I urge the people of Richmond to stand up to our City Council and tell them that the people of Virginia have already spoken on marriage — loudly and clearly. We believe that this vital institution — the bedrock of our society — is solely the union of a man and a woman. This arrangement has served all civilization well for countless ages, and in our day is the best means we have of ensuring every child the opportunity to have both a mother and father. Tell your Councilmember to scrap this terrible proposal, Ordinance 2013-154, and to stop playing politics and get back to work for the people of Richmond.

Bravo to these brave men for standing up for marriage and leading their congregations to do the same!

What Marriage in America Means

Finally, from Hawaii comes an important reminder of something that we here at NOM have always maintained to be crucial for the fate of marriage in the United States. On this important issue, the people should decide!

A coalition called Let the People Decide, of which NOM is a very proud partner, has begun running some wonderful ads in Hawaii and I want to share one with you today. It's especially touching because it reflects the great cultural heritage and richness of Hawaii which some of us perhaps have experienced in visits to the beautiful state. And thus it reminds us, too, that marriage is a universal value that every heritage and every culture has treasured and honored throughout history. Hawaiians are asking for their right to do the same — and I pray that they are afforded that right!

Thank you for continuing to stand strong for marriage and for our treasured freedoms. It is my honor to stand with you.

You Are the Future, NOM Marriage News

National Organization for Marriage

Dear Marriage Supporter,

I want to begin today by sharing with you the video of the panel I participated in last week at the Values Voter Summit on The Future of Marriage with the wonderful Ryan Anderson and Jennifer Marshall from The Heritage Foundation.

The Future of Marriage Begins With YOU

Here's what I had to say about the future of marriage:

This, I believe, is the future of marriage: that if those of us who know the truth about marriage are willing to speak lovingly but boldly the truth that we know in our hearts — that we know through reason, that we know through faith — then ultimately others who in their hearts know this truth... will come back to this truth.

This is written on the human heart — that there's something different about moms and dads, that kids deserve both mothers and fathers — this is written on our hearts. And what we need are people who are willing to stand up — regardless of the names they're called, regardless of the threats that come, regardless of whether supporters of redefining marriage take their 990s and post their names on the internet or whatever else.

What little are we being asked to do! — if we look back at those before us who stood up for the truth, Christians and others through the Civil Rights Movement before! All we're being asked to do is to stand up for the truth... what we know is true in our hearts.... And some of us are never, ever going to be ashamed of that or refuse to stand up to defend it.

This notion was a theme of sorts at the Values Voter Summit: that what we need is for ordinary citizens, individuals like you and I, to stand up bravely and speak the truth without fear or shame.

Jennifer Marshall developed upon the same theme in her response to a question from Tony Perkins. She was asked what she would offer to inspire people to have that courage needed to continue standing up in defense of marriage.

Jennifer drew attention to a joint publication from NOM, The Heritage Foundation, FRC, Focus on the Family, and Alliance Defending Freedom, the booklet What You Need to Know about Marriage:

This is just one example of the kinds of ways that we have been really honing our message and trying to make it accessible for everybody. We did this booklet so that you could take it, digest it, and have these conversations, over the water cooler at work, with your family... we need to really be talking about the case for marriage, and we all need to be equipped with it.

You can get a link to download your own copy of this important resource by visiting this website.

The same theme of citizen activism came up during a Congressional Town Hall at the Summit, when Representative Louie Gohmert (R-Tx.) gave this stirring advice:

What can you do? Listen, folks: if you haven't written a letter to the editor of your local newspaper at least once every six months (and I'd recommend once a month!) then you're not helping like you could. If you're not calling into the newspaper and complaining about leftist articles they've done, and especially opinions they do; if you haven't called your television stations and complained about things, you're not doing what you can do. And when you let your voice be heard, Congress always follows. [...]

The truism has always been consistent, that democracy ensures that people are governed no better than they deserve.... We need to be about deserving better leaders.

Great advice! And I'd encourage everyone to follow it, especially those of you in those states where marriage is currently under attack.

Where Your Voice Needs to be Heard

An article in Crisis Magazine last week by Stephen Beale highlighted just some of the threats to marriage that we're seeing around the nation, and you should really check it out. You might be surprised to find attacks to religious liberty happening right in your backyard in your home state, and think of ways that you might be able to help.

Beale details "at least 11 instances of wedding vendors and venues facing some form of recrimination — threats, boycotts, protests, and the intervention of state or judicial authorities — because they denied services for gay nuptials because of their faith."

He explains clearly how these are linked to the push to redefine marriage:

Such fundamental clashes are linked to the spreading legalization of same-sex marriage. Of the 11 total cases cited above, three occurred within two years of their state legalizing same-sex marriage. A fourth came four years afterwards. Four others were in states that did not have same-sex marriage but had granted some legal recognition to same-sex unions, such as domestic partnerships or civil unions. "When you start recognizing same-sex marriage, these cases are going to start coming up," said Jim Campbell, an Alliance for Defense attorney [sic].

But Beale ends with his own reflection on the future that gives the same spirit of advice we saw coming up time and again at the Values Voter Summit. The advice comes from a Catholic Bishop to his diocese; but it's food for thought for all supporters of marriage in our nation who won't willingly be silenced:

As Christians in the United State wonder on what these cases might mean for them, they would do well to reflect on a letter that a bishop recently issued to his diocese, after losing that state's battle over marriage. The letter is addressed by Bishop Thomas Tobin to Rhode Island Catholics, but his words speak to Christians across the country: "Without a doubt this is a time of challenge, even disappointment for many of us, but it is also an opportunity to be steadfast and courageous, and to renew our commitment to Christ and His Church. As our Lord Jesus Christ told us, ‘In the world you will have trouble, but take courage, I have conquered the world' (Jn 16:33)."

We can welcome this "opportunity to be steadfast and courageous" in various ways, but it starts with being willing to stand up and to defend the truth about marriage without counting the cost.

The Future of Marriage is Bright

It's also good to be reminded that the victory has already been won in the end, because sometimes we see only glimmers of hope and victory for long periods of time when we're in the trenches of these cultural battles. One such glimmer did come this week, though, out of Illinois.

The Illinois Review reports that the proposed bill to redefine marriage in the Land of Lincoln continues to face an uphill battle, and this time because of fundraising shortcomings from those pushing the radical legislation:

Equality Illinois vowed to raise $500,000 to renew the fight this fall. Half of the money was to be earmarked for a "re-education campaign" while the other $250,000 was to fund re-election challenges to lawmakers who would have voted "no" on gay marriage, and to protect those that were planning to vote "yes".

But as David Ormsby reports, despite all the "rhetorical swagger" and "political chest thumping," the organization has fallen far short of its political fundraising goal — raising only $25,421 in the third quarter.

The fact is that the people of Illinois simply do not want marriage redefined and undermined — least of all when the legislature there has so many better things to do with the people's time and resources. It's good to see this fact bearing consequences for the disastrous bill that a noisy minority are still trying to ram through the legislature.

Let's take encouragement where we can, and continue together to stand up bravely for the value of marriage and for the liberties we hold so dear, like freedom of religion and freedom of speech.

The future of marriage is ours to make: what will you do today to ensure that future is bright?


Brian S. Brown

Watch What We've Been Up To

National Organization for Marriage

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Good morning from the Values Voter Summit in Washington, DC! I just wanted to give you an update on what NOM has been up to recently before taking the stage in a few hours.

This morning at 10:45 am Eastern Time, I'll appear on a panel with Tony Perkins of the Family Research Council and Ryan Anderson and Jennifer Marshall of the Heritage Foundation talking about "The Future of Marriage."

If you are able, I invite you to watch the live, streaming video feed of the panel on the Values Voter Summit home page. If you can't watch this morning, you can visit FRC Action's YouTube page in the coming days and watch the video once they have posted it.

Partnering with the African American Church

I also had the pleasure of attending a banquet supporting the Coalition of African American Pastors (CAAP) last night. CAAP — especially honoree, Rev. William Owens — has done an incredible job of rallying the African American community in the defense of marriage all over the country.

I'd like to introduce you to this wonderful organization by letting you watch the video presentation they played at the dinner:

I make a couple of brief appearances in the video toward the end after they begin talking about the importance of defending the family around the 6:40 minute mark of the video.


Our Chairman, Dr. John Eastman, was also speaking out and making news this past week, as NOM launched our lawsuit against the IRS for its illegal action of leaking our confidential tax documents. If you haven't seen it yet, you can watch what Dr. Eastman had to say at a conference hosted by the Heritage Foundation:

The Continued Assault on Religious Freedom

Also in the news this week is an interesting story out of Iowa. The Odgaard family is having to sue the Iowa Civil Rights Commission asking the Commission to declare that the couple was not in violation of the law when they declined to participate in a same-sex marriage ceremony by renting out their private property.

Fortunately, our good friends at the Becket Fund are on the case — literally! — defending the Odgaards in court. You can watch this brief video they compiled to learn more about it:

Action Items You Can Take Today

As ever, we remain vigilant on the state and federal level, stoking up grassroots activism wherever marriage is threatened. Please take a moment to look over our current, pressing Action Alerts to see if there is some action you can take to defend marriage in America! It will only take a few minutes of your time!

Marriage Amendment The Marriage and Religious Freedom Act New Jersey

Illinois Hawaii

Finally, in Monday's email we misattributed statements from Laurie Higgins' wonderful article on the Illinois Family Institute blog to the Chicago Tribune. These errors have been corrected on our blog and online properties. Our apologies to all parties for the mistake.


Brian S. Brown

PS: I just wanted to remind you that our matching gift challenge is still active — and will be throughout the rest of the year — so there's no better time to make a donation to NOM to support our work of defending marriage and the faith communities that sustain it. Won't you please consider making a donation of $25, $50, $100 or even $500 or more in support of our work today?

What's more, if you sign up to be a monthly donor, I'll send you a free copy of NOM co-founder and Princeton Professor Robert P. George's book, What Is Marriage? — an essential educational tool for every marriage defender, as well as the best argument ever assembled as to why marriage must be between one man and one woman and why the government has a compelling interest in defending that definition.


NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

I have some breaking news for you! Today, NOM filed suit against the IRS over the leak of our confidential tax documents from their offices and to discover how these documents got into the hands of our chief political opponent, the Human Rights Campaign in March 2012.

It's a felony to release or receive confidential tax returns. NOM's case has garnered a lot of attention throughout the course of this year — especially following our chairman Professor John Eastman's explosive testimony before the House Ways and Means Committee this past June. We have been working hard to make sure that not only our rights, but every American's rights, to freedom of speech and association are protected as they should be.

Unfortunately, despite our efforts and the efforts of several members of Congress, the IRS and Obama Administration continue to every request to get to the bottom of this crime and hold accountable to the American people those responsible for this deed. That's why our lawsuit is so important, not only for our case, but for anyone who has been harassed and targeted over their political beliefs. As Dr. Eastman explains in his op-ed today on, "The politicization of the IRS... is a dangerous development, a threat to the liberty of every citizen, and it needs to be stopped. NOM's suit is an important step in that effort."

Dr. Eastman writes,

It was March of 2012. Marriage was on the ballot in 5 states that year: North Carolina in May; and Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington in November. Those seeking to redefine marriage had an uphill battle. 32 states had voted since 2004 to reaffirm the traditional definition of marriage by large margins, and no State had voted to approve same0sex ‘marriage.' But campaigns of intimidation and harassment against donors to the traditional marriage cause and its flagship organization, the National Organization for Marriage, had begun to take its toll. The Human Rights Campaign ("HRC"), NOM's principal opponent in these political battles, even had a website, "NOM Exposed," designed to publicly identify NOM and its supporters and donors so they and their businesses could be harassed. But HRC wanted more. They wanted access to NOM's confidential list of donors, lists that NOM is required to file with the IRS but are not public information.

Magically, soon after their president was named a national Co-Chair of the Obama Releection campaign, the HRC got what they wanted. It's an established fact that the information originated with the IRS.

That leak of confidential information had its desired effect. Dr. Eastman explains:

The campaign of harassment and intimidation that had been tried and perfected in the fight over California's Proposition 8 could now begin again in the 2012 election cycle. That effort succeeded. Donations to NOM and to the ballot campaigns then underway became increasingly hard to come by, to the point that the same-sex marriage forces were able to outspend NOM and its allies by more than $20 million dollars (a nearly 4 to 1 advantage) in the 4 States where marriage was on the ballot in November 2012, resulting in the first electoral losses for traditional marriage ever.

What happened at the IRS concerning the illegal leak of our confidential tax return and donor information is the most serious example to date of the kinds of intimidation tactics that same-sex marriage activists use to bully folks and try to scare us from the public square.

And yet it's been eighteen months since the illegal disclosure of our 2008 Form 990 Schedule B which eventually made its way into the hands of the Human Rights Campaign... and no charges have been filed, nor any demonstration made of what internal investigations into the matter involved or discovered. In fact, the IRS claims that releasing the name of the culprit is illegal on the basis of the very same federal statute that was violated in the leak! Talk about an Orwellian irony!

An organization with the power and reach of the IRS must be held to account for the scandal of political targeting, or else our treasured First Amendment rights run the risk of becoming worth less than the parchment they're written on.

So, we'll be fighting the IRS in court to get to the bottom of this matter. This lawsuit goes hand-in-hand with one of our central beliefs as Americans: the belief that no one should ever have reason to be afraid to exercise his or her freedom to speak, write, act, donate, or vote on behalf of the common sense principle that marriage is the union of one man and one woman.

The Human Rights Campaign has a notorious record of intimidation and bullying. Pro-marriage individuals are targeted by HRC and others — such as the Southern Poverty Law Center — with all kinds of charged and libelous rhetoric — such as "hate speech" and "hate groups" — in the hopes that they will feel too threatened and frightened to express their views publicly.

The most flagrant instance of what this kind of uncivil behavior can lead to was seen last August, when Floyd Corkins used the SPLC's "hate map" to compile a list of organizations that he hoped to target in a murderous shooting spree. But for the heroic actions of a security guard at his first target — the Washington headquarters of the Family Research Council — there's no imagining what the tragic results might have been.

Of course, Corkins' deadly plans are an instance of extremism. But extremism is no stranger to the HRC. Their stock in trade is bullying, harassment and intimidation. (See their disgusting website, NOM Exposed, for an example.)

One way or another, the HRC is not going to be able to just ignore the felony that has occurred. They are going to have to answer how they came into possession of a confidential tax return and donor information — information that unquestionably originated with the IRS itself — at the very time their president was raising millions of dollars for President Obama's reelection campaign as a national co-chair.

I say "one way or another" — that's because, in addition to the suit we've just filed, there are others looking into this matter. Just this past Friday, the House Oversight and Government Reform Committee's chairman Darrell Issa announced that his committee would be holding an investigation into the IRS's malfeasances as well. In a statement to NRO's The Corner, Issa said:

This information will give us a better sense of why these groups faced delays, what questions they were asked, and what sort of communications were occurring within the IRS in regards to the inappropriate delays and the apparently politically driven leak.

"The truth will come to light," said Shakespeare. But sometimes it needs a little help, and we're going to give it all we can to ensure that the truth of this matter is exposed for the American people. The protection of our core liberties demands nothing less.

As I said, this case is not just about NOM, but about every American's right to the freedoms of speech, religion, and association. I'm glad we've finally filed this critical suit, but NOM still needs to press forward, not just with the case, but with the marriage battles across the country — New Jersey, Illinois, Hawaii, and in Congress. Please consider a generous donation to NOM today to help us win these fights. And remember, now is a great time to make a gift because your generosity will be matched dollar for dollar, up to $1 million.

Thank you for your faithfulness to NOM and the unique and critical institution of marriage.

Faithfully yours,

Brian S. Brown

Like a Stone, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

"Sank Like a Stone" — that's how same-sex marriage faired in Australia this past week.

Australia held elections for Prime Minister the other day, but it was as much a referendum on whether the Aussies would redefine marriage or not. Former Prime Minister Kevin Rudd nailed his hopes of winning to a promise of introducing legislation to redefine marriage within the first 100 days of returning to office.

As was reported, the pro-marriage platform of the former Prime Minister "sank beneath the waves" of the pro-marriage majority down under.

You may remember I had traveled to Australia in August for the World Congress of Families, and I could not be happier for the friends I made on that trip and our pro-marriage and family allies there.

It's a great victory for marriage, and a win worth celebrating across the globe. It also serves as a reminder that when people are given the right to vote on marriage, they invariably vote to preserve the true and intrinsic nature of marriage as an institution binding one man to one woman for life in order to love and care for one another and for any children born of their union.

To cement this great victory, the people of Australia should insist on the right to a national referendum to preserve marriage. That's the best way to capitalize on the momentum of the victory, and only an amendment will protect marriage from the unceasing efforts of gay-'marriage' activists and the politicians who rely on them for support. It's the only way to ensure that the people — and not politicians or judges — control the definition of marriage in Australia.

While Here at Home

Speaking of amendments, here at home we're continuing to work to encourage support for the Federal Marriage Amendment being sponsored by Representative Tim Huelskamp of Kansas. We've written to thousands of marriage supporters across the country urging them to invite their own Representative to become a co-sponsor of the proposed amendment. The resolution now has 52 co-sponsors! NOM will be working with our allies on the Hill and among other organizations to keep the pressure on members of the House to support this important bill.

Meanwhile, marriage faces direct threats in the next two to three months, and we're working hard to meet them.

Hawaii and Illinois will have special legislative sessions where activists will again try to ram through legislation to redefine marriage for the people of those states. We've beaten them before — in Illinois, already once this year — but our opponents have amassed more money from homosexual activists and are turning up the heat. New Jersey, too, will attempt to redefine marriage before the end of the year. These are all tough battles in difficult states, but we're going to give our all to prevail.

But to give our all, we need your help. It's your donations that give us the resources we need to continue fighting across the nation and in the halls of Congress. Your generosity funds our calls, letters and rallies that have been so important in these pitched battles. So, if you can help us with a generous gift today as we prepare for battle in these key states, it would be a blessing. (Remember, every dollar you give will be matched by a very kind donor, and all the funds we receive will be immediately deployed to the front where the battle for marriage is being waged.)

A positive state-level outlook comes from Indiana, where the legislature will likely vote in coming months to put marriage on the ballot for voter approval in 2014. We're working vigorously as part of the growing coalition there to ensure Indiana citizens their right to vote on marriage.

In the courts, challenges to true marriage are being argued across the country, and in the near future we expect decisions to come down in states like Pennsylvania and New Mexico, as well as other states.

With all these court fights and legislative battles in full gear, the next two to three months are crucial to marriage in America. It's why the our $1 million matching gift campaign from now to the end of the year is so important. If you haven't take advantage of this tremendous opportunity, please do so just as soon as you finish reading this newsletter.

Confident in the American People

As I've always told you, I'm confident that if America were to vote on marriage, we would clearly win. Like the people of Australia, we know the importance of marriage for men and women and for our whole society, especially children.

We hear a lot that public opinion is shifting away from marriage in America, but that's simply not the case. One recent Fox News poll showed that 56% of Americans "oppose" redefining marriage: continuing proof that marriage redefinition is not "inevitable."

But even more telling is a Rice University poll that has been given little attention. Our friends at CitizenLink brought this poll to light the other day, publishing an article by Jerry Cox, the president of the Arkansas Family Council.

Cox explains how the poll shows that between 2006 and 2012, "if a person was going to change their mind on the issue of marriage, they were more likely to swing toward opposing same-sex marriage than supporting it."

This poll is particularly interesting, because it interviewed people over time. This allows researchers to measure changes in opinion. And contrary to the myth that support for gay marriage is rapidly gainsing steam, the truth is that it's opposition to gay marriage that is growing.

Of course, the media doesn't want Americans to know this, so they refuse to report it. All we get are stories about the "oppressed minority" and how "equality" is being denied.

Stakes Higher Than You Can Imagine

Despite this, glimmers of the truth do get out — such as the Fox poll and the Rice University study. To make sure that more Americans know about this, we as ordinary Americans need to speak out, and to be heard in the halls of power — such as the state houses of Hawaii, Illinois, and New Jersey. We need to be heard in the courtrooms across the country as well, and we need to be heard in the public squares across the land. NOM is dedicated to helping you have your voice and values heard in all the places of power where the future of marriage is being debated and decided.

We know how much is at stake. Quite literally, the well-being of future generations is at risk. When marriage is redefined, legally or even just 'culturally,' the connection between marriage and children breaks down, and it is the children who pay the price.

One of the most grave consequences of redefining marriage, be it intended or otherwise, is how it leads to other mistakes of definition down the line — for example, mistakes about the definition of parenthood.

Same-sex couples and others are frequently turning down certain technological paths to parenthood which, by definition, deny children of at least one, and very often times both, of their biological parents. In other words, it's becoming more and more a 'new norm' that children are created by design who will be denied their inherent right to know and love their own mom and dad!

Alana Newman has written powerfully about the sense of loss and lack of rights that donor-conceived children feel. Her words are a timely reminder to us, as we blindly follow the urgings of homosexual activists and others in taking step after step into an Orwellian future, that we are creating a whole host of problem for society, and these children in particular.

This madness is certainly not unrelated to cultural urgings toward the deconstruction of marriage. Once we ignore marriage's intrinsic purpose in bringing men and women together to be parents for children, other misunderstandings follow closely behind. Simply put, once marriage falls, parentage falls soon thereafter.

At its core, that's what we must fight against. Marriage is so much more than a private contract and the satisfaction of adults' desires. It is God's design, in His perfect wisdom, for building a healthy society through healthy and whole generations of children.

Let's all be angels here on earth for the cause — speaking the truth in love about marriage, its purpose, its profound good, and its enormous importance to a flourishing society.

Thank you for all you do.


Brian S. Brown

P.S. Marriage's victory in Australia bought them 2 – 3 years to pass a Constitutional Amendment. But here in the U.S. we only have 2 – 3 MONTHS to protect and promote marriage in Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, and New Jersey. And there's only 3 months left to have your donation doubled by our matching gift program. Please take the time to consider a generous contribution today. Two to three months is all we have.

You've Been Framed, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Prof John Eastman, Chairman of our board, is one sharp legal eagle. Watch him take on and demolish the idea that the Supreme Court has authorized county clerks in Pennsylvania and other states to just hand out 'marriage' licenses to gay couples lawlessly, without even the cover of a court order.

Watch Prof. John Eastman on PBS New Hour lay down the law to James Esseks from the ACLU:

The people that are opposed to redefining the very core institution of marriage are going to continue to fight. Justice Kennedy's opinion in the Defense of Marriage Act case rests heavily on the fact that states are the primary determiners of marriage policy in our country. . . .The statutes and the state constitutional provisions that define marriage as it has been through most of human history, as a man and a woman, don't need to be changed.

All over this country people are facing the question: submit or stand up. Prof. John Eastman points out how many people are choosing to stand up and speak truth to power:

I think the other side of [the] coin is what we saw happen in Illinois. The African-American pastors rose up and they almost single-handedly stopped the redefinition of marriage bill from going through the Illinois legislature.

The new powers want you to believe that giving up is the only option. They are continually coming up with creative new strategies to suppress your rights, and the rights of millions of other Americans who believe marriage is the union of husband and wife.

Karger: "My Effort is to Silence Your Voice"

Our own Chris Plante told One News Now about a conversation he had with Fred Karger, heralded in the gay media for running around the country filing false complaints without any evidence that NOM violates campaign disclosure laws. His hope is that somewhere some minor oversight will trigger an unfair "investigation" and force NOM to reveal its donors to the public. Chris reports Karger is quite open and honest about his goal, "My effort is to dry up your funding stream and silence your voice," he said.

To "silence your voice"—that's what the Fred Kargers of the world want. To silence the voice of traditional believers across the board.

And so the "creative" strategies multiply, because if you can redefine marriage you can redefine election laws too, right?

We have a word for the political extortion dynamic (now unfolding under Obamacare) of a government passing broad regulations and then granting special exemptions to favored businesses (those who donate and help elect politicians): crony capitalism.

We need a new word for the aggressive new attempt to apply that Chicago way to nonprofits.

Laws are enforced unequally with favored groups getting exemptions that political groups disfavored by powerful elites do not get. This is political corruption aimed at our core rights to participate in democracy on a free and equal basis.

Political Exemptions: Your Freedom Redefined

I want to point out to you a story you would otherwise miss, about an "ethics law" championed by Gov. Andrew Cuomo in New York requiring nonprofits that do any lobbying at all to reveal their donors.

The law, passed 2 years ago, supposedly safeguards free speech by permitting the state ethics board to grant exemptions to the law for nonprofits whose donors might be endangered by being publicly revealed.

We saw how "state ethics commissions" can be influenced by politics, though, when the Maine ethics commission rejected its own staff recommendations and proceeded to open an investigation into NOM. We saw the same dynamic in Iowa, where the state ethics chairman slammed NOM by falsely describing our legal position to the media. Despite the fact that the Board has confirmed that there is no evidence pointing to any violation on NOM's part.

So now we have a state ethics commission in charge of determining who gets to participate safely in the political process in New York. And guess who is the first, and so far only, nonprofit that the commission has exempted from disclosure law? NARAL Pro-Choice New York.

That's right: government grants a politically powerful and engaged pro-abortion lobby special protections from a law passed by a Democratic governor.

Even the New York Times smells something fishy, noting:

NARAL has been so politically active: waging a campaign last year to help Democrats take control of the State Senate; spending $425,000 on lobbying this year, pushing an abortion rights measure put forth by Mr. Cuomo; and vowing to go after incumbent Republican senators next year.

Donor disclosure laws do not apply to friends of Andrew Cuomo in New York.

Our friends over at New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms are among groups applying for an exemption, but so far: stonewalled.

It's a political protection racket, posing as a disclosure law.

I have to give a shout-out to the New York Civil Liberties Union, though, because they too recognize the threat this law poses to freedom of speech and democratic process:

"People say nasty things about us or call us up all the time, and we can take that," said Arthur Eisenberg, the group's legal director. "It's the individual donors who shouldn't need to take that, and the price of their association with us, and their participation in the First Amendment activity of lobbying, should not be at the cost of their feeling secure and free from threats and retaliation."

Amen to that!

You've Been Framed

Many of you wrote to say you've read the new Public Discourse essay "Now that We are All Haters," about the power of the mainstream media and the gay rights lobby to choose the language, the stories, and the narratives around gay marriage. In particular the power of the narratives that frame those of us who stand up for marriage and the Biblical tradition as "haters" and "bigots".

I should point out (because a lot of you missed it!) this essay is by that other Brian Brown, the Princeton alum who runs Narrator, a communications consultancy that "uses neuroscience and social network theory to build powerful support communities around products and causes."

The other Brian talks about speaking to young conservatives, some of whom support gay marriage but most of whom just want to get out of the crosshairs:

The most common sentiment: even though none thought a same-sex relationship was a marriage, almost none wanted to play for a losing team whose objective was a national stranglehold on people's happiness.

Can we surrender truth to escape the power of their hatred towards us, their capacity to saturate the media with narratives libeling good, decent, loving and law-abiding people as haters?

This kind of media social punishment has a cultural effect, no doubt.

But do the American people really believe in gay marriage?

We got more evidence the answer is "no" from a surprising source: Reason Magazine, which is editorially a pro-gay marriage libertarian slant.

Reason reports on a recent Fox News poll about gay marriage that asked, "using two different word frames," whether folks support or oppose same-sex 'marriage': and the two methods yielded dramatically different results. But both put the lie to the argument that somehow redefining marriage is somehow inevitable.

The first frame asked about "changing the definition of the word marriage to also include same-sex couples", and found that Americans oppose redefining marriage by 56 percent to 39 percent.

But in the same poll Fox asked if respondents would favor "legalizing same-sex marriage." Here Americans split 46 percent in favor and 47 percent opposed with 7 percent undecided—still far short of the supposed majority other mainstream media outlets would have you believe support same-sex marriage.

Americans don't really believe gay unions are marriages. We found the same thing in our November 2012 poll of voters: 3 in 5 Americans said marriage is ONLY the union of a man and a woman.

So don't lose hope. In the end truth trumps falsehood, and the Love that created us will protect those who stand with Him and protect His creations.

That's why I admire you so much; I know it takes courage in the darkness to light a candle, to have faith, and to work hard for what is true, and good, and loving and right.

God bless you and thank you again.

It is a privilege to stand shoulder to shoulder with you in this great fight for the country we love.


Brian S. Brown

Breaking Bad Across the Nation

NOM National Newsletter

Breaking Bad in the Nation's Capital

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Fifty years ago, Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. had a dream:

"I have a dream...when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, 'Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!'"

Who would think we would live to see the day when a black Mayor of the District of Columbia would use not only local but federal funds to ban a Grammy-award winning black pastor from performing at a concert in honor of Rev. King because — he believes and says that Christ liberated him from "the sin of homosexuality."

Mayor Vincent Grey admits he made the decision to ban Donnie McClurkin from singing, in spite of a signed contract to do so, because gay activists consider him too controversial — calling him vile and claiming his performance would be at odds with the spirit of Dr. King.

The Mayor's office tried to pretend it was a mutual decision, but Pastor McClurkin is not going to let the lie stand:

The black churches in D.C. are up in arms, but they are not yet able to dislodge the new man-made moral law: "Thou shall affirm all things homosexual no matter what the Bible says." Read their statement here.

Breaking Down Intolerance With Love and Courage

When we first started to point out that gay marriage was not just going to be about private liberty and public tolerance — but would result in limits on freedom of speech and religion — many people called us liars or fools. Now, we are looking more and more like prophets. I wish it weren't so, but things, my dear friends, are breaking bad, very bad.

We will need to draw inspiration and strength from the courageous giants like Rev. Dr. King who faced a far worse barrage of hatred and unjust man-made laws than you and I (God willing) ever will have to face. Men and women like Dr. King faithfully adhered to the most often repeated command in the Bible: Be not afraid.

He spoke truth to power, and never descended to hatred. That's a man of God. That's a man for our time. That's a man for all time.

Breaking Bad in Iowa

It's hard to believe, but even in Iowa opponents of God's design for marriage have resorted to name calling, threats, and bias behavior.

In Sioux City, during the 2010 campaign to unseat three renegade judges, Scott Raasch sent this email to a Christian pastor, Rev. Cary Gordon, who campaigned against gay marriage:

Raasch wrote, "You will get what's coming to you sooner or later. I hope you rot in hell," adding, "I think there are many people that deserve to burn in hell...including you and your entire family."

These are not the words of tolerance or civility, and they certainly do not lift up human rights.

Despite these threats, Mr. Raasch now sits on the Sioux City Human Rights Commission. Even though he's since apologized for his outrageous language, can Iowans who believe in true marriage really expect justice and impartiality when the person responsible for protecting human rights so viciously attacks the right to speak the truth about marriage?

Similarly, the Iowa Ethics and Campaign Disclosure Board, chaired by a woman who used to work for one of the judges we helped Iowans unseat, is targeting the National Organization for Marriage. After a homosexual activist filed a frivolous complaint against NOM, the Executive Director and General Counsel of the Board effectively convicted NOM in absentia, declaring NOM to be "absolutely wrong" without ever seeing the evidence.

Bias and vitriol are not things I normally think of when I think of Iowa, but this is the fight supporters of true marriage face in that state.

We will stand strong and fight back. Thank you for your words of encouragement, and your prayers.

Breaking Bad at the IRS (Still)

The administrative state has tools to make life difficult for disfavored political groups. And the IRS scandal continues to be a perfect case study.

If you do just one thing this week for marriage, please, write to the House Ways and Means Committee to:

  • demand justice for pro-marriage supporters around this country

  • demand they use the power of the subpoena to get to the bottom of the IRS attacks on the National Organization for Marriage, as well as other groups

  • demand to know how the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) got our private tax documents. We know they originated from within the IRS itself. We know that the head of the HRC was a national campaign chairman for President Obama. Who leaked the documents to our opponents at the HRC, and what, if any, role did the White House play in this scandal?

  • demand IRS Commissioner Steve Miller tell the truth about how a felony can be committed against taxpayers by releasing private information—and no-one get disciplined at all?

Please contact your congressman and demand justice for pro-marriage taxpayers in this country. You can look up your representative's contact information here.

Breaking Bad in the Private Sector

Frank Turek knows what it's like to be targeted for his views and also how a Christian hero responds. You may remember Frank from NOM's MarriageADA video:

He lost a job with Cisco Systems after a student Googled him and discovered he had written a book (check it out here) opposing gay marriage. Not for anything he said or did on the job, but for his political and religious views.

If you live in Charlotte, North Carolina, or can travel there, you can hear Frank firsthand on how to respond to persecution from a Christian worldview. He'll be at the 20th Annual National Conference on Christian Apologetics "Reasons for the Hope" Oct. 11 and 12 at the First Baptist Church Indian Trail in Charlotte.

Millenials Resist Breaking Bad and Stand for Marriage

Another reason for hope: Chris Marlink's powerful testimony "Millenials Will Save Marriage." Hundreds of young people are pledging themselves to be the MarriageGeneration:

"[H]ere's my counterintuitive thesis: Millennials, that same generation poised to throw it all away, will save marriage. They'll do it the way sailors have made progress in strong headwinds for thousands of years. They'll tack...

Over the next several weeks I'll offer a few of the tacks that millennial Christians can take to redeem and Before proceeding, let me state that I don't believe legally redefining marriage so as to include same-sex couples will be the death of marriage. As I'll explain shortly, marriage is at the center of God's redemptive plan for mankind and is beyond our ability to remake or destroy...

Millennials who hold orthodox convictions on marriage are not in a race to stop marriage from being redefined. Supposing most Americans understand marriage as "love and commitment," then let us acknowledge that this exclusively personal understanding of marriage, sundered from any of the societal implications of the union, already represents a redefinition. Same-sex "marriage" is a near unassailable eventuality if marriage means solely "love and commitment." Our task then, is not to stop a redefinition of marriage: it is to correct a redefinition. It is to redeem and restore marriage in the hearts and minds of our neighbors. If we do that, the law will follow."

Let me close with a reminder of another set of eternal words of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr from a letter that he wrote while sitting in the Birmingham jail: " A just law is a man made code that squares with the moral law or the law of God. An unjust law is a code that is out of harmony with the moral law."

Have faith and keep the faith: The arc of history is long, but it bends towards justice. Can there be anything more just than preserving the sacred principle that marriage unites men and women to each other, and provides the ideal environment to raise and nurture any children that are born of that union?

Fight hard for the truth, with love, and pray for all of us on the front lines of the marriage fight.


Brian S. Brown

REALLY?! Abraham Lincoln would approve of 'marriage equality'?! NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

The wedding industry attracts a number of devout Christians. It's natural perhaps, given the Bible describes the act of joining a man and woman in marriage, as mirroring God's presence in a special way.

Many of these Christians are now being asked, cruelly, to choose between their faith and their families' livelihoods. The latest case to emerge is in Grimes, Iowa. The Odgaards, husband and wife owners of Gortz Haus, were too honest to lie when a gay male couple showed up and tried to book their venue for their wedding ceremony. Mr. Odgaard asked if they were looking for a place for a gay wedding. When told "Yes" he said, "I can't take your money and I don't do things for free."

"It's not from an angry place," Mrs. Odgaard told the press. It's just that she is a Mennonite and she does not think it is right to personally facilitate a gay wedding. "That decision is based on our religious beliefs. We want to honor that. We want people to know that is our stand that comes from our faith, our convictions. I think we should just stand by that no matter what," said Odgaard.

Lee Stafford, one half of the same-sex couple, is having none of that religious liberty talk: "The fact is he discriminated against us based on our sexual orientation. Iowa code says if you have a public accommodation, you can't discriminate based on sexual orientation," Lee told the press. Notice how he changed the subject from "What is marriage?" to homosexuality. But in fact, it was because Mr. Stafford and his partner wanted a "wedding" that the Odgaards turned him down.

When the story broke, the social media trolls ran with the story and the haters went after the Odgaards in a big way, sending them "hateful, hurtful and threatening" emails, Mrs. Odgaard reported.

That's not the way people usually treat each other in Grimes. It's not the way anyone should be treated.

So why this torrent of hatred at someone like Mrs. Betty Odgaard?

Because the haters know that their tactics work: they are engaged in a deliberate attempt to intimidate and repress good people like Mrs. Odgaard and her husband, and to scare people like you and me from raising our voices in public. This personal hate is backed up by the iron hand of the law that is likely to punish the Odgaards for what is now in the government's eyes a crime: failing to assist in a gay wedding when asked, even if it violates your deeply held religious beliefs. In the state's view, you must accommodate gay 'weddings' if you do weddings at all.

But the stakes are so cruelly different: for the homosexual couple, it's "find another wedding venue." But for the Osgaards it's "obey the government or lose your livelihood."

This is no philosophical debate. You'll recall the Vermont couple who faced a similar situation when a homosexual couple wanted to host a wedding at their Inn. They were sued when they explained their Christian views, and were forced to pay a stiff fine and exit the wedding business altogether.

It's imperative that we let people in Iowa and around the nation know what's going on.

We need $3,755 to send a camera crew out to cover this story and other breaking stories as they develop. Can you help us make sure the faces of the victims like the Odgaards don't get buried by the mainstream media? Standing for their faith, the Odgaards are heroes who deserve our support. NOM and our Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance want to help the Odgaards tell their story. Help us make it happen.

Jennifer Thieme, the finance director at NOM's Ruth Institute, is another brave woman, one of the next generation's heroines, who is not simply going to sit back and surrender her right to speak freely about gay marriage.

A few weeks ago in "the Wonk Room," Jennifer took the "Log Cabin Republicans" to task for claiming that support for gay marriage is consistent with the principles of Abraham Lincoln and the Republican Party.
But one Log Cabin Republican named Angelo objected claiming, "Contrary to Ms. Thieme's assertions, marriage equality is very much consistent with the conservative values of individuality and limited government." He concludes by claiming "equality" as a conservative principle, not only consistent with, but at the core of limited government.

You are going to hear a lot claims like this by the now well-funded "turn the GOP pro-gay marriage lobby." My!, What the kids these days don't know.

But one thing I know about Jennifer is she doesn't back down from a fight!

"The Log Cabin Republicans did not address the central point I made, which is how same sex marriage changes the status between parents and their children," Jennifer Thieme shot back, "The claims for "marriage equality" pale in comparison to the vast transfer of authority from natural families to the state."

She goes on, "Mr. Angelo criticizes my preference for biological parenthood. He doesn't offer an alternative, but the only alternative is unacceptable: to have the state assign parenthood in all cases. That's what "parent 1 and parent 2" means — the biological reality of mother and father is disregarded in favor of subjective definitions."

You don't have to agree with every single word to appreciate the larger truth: gay marriage is a radical — to the root — transformation of our fundamental principles of family law, family life, and the relationship between government and family, and between people of faith and our new government order.

Limited government is based on the idea that government does not get to redefine our reality or our rights. Remember, under the American system we recognize that rights come from the Creator, not government. Respect for marriage and the natural family as a limiting principle of government power is being replaced by a massive new intrusion of government to enforce "equality" laws.

You know who else has noticed how radical Anthony Kennedy's new America is? The polyamory lobby.

Anita Wagner Illig, a long-time polyamory spokeswoman, told Newsweek that the Supreme Court's DOMA decision was opening new doors: "A favorable outcome for marriage equality is a favorable outcome for multi-partner marriage, because the opposition cannot argue lack of precedent for legalizing marriage for other forms of non-traditional relationships."

True to form, exactly as we predicted, the polygamist movement is following the script laid down by the gay marriage activists.

  • Step one: Control the media image: only happy stories about happy polyamorists please.

  • Step two: Make oversized claims for the virtues of this way of life based on personal narratives backed by weak or shoddy scientific evidence. This February, the very first annual International Academic Polyamory Conference took place in Berkeley, California.

  • Step Three: Use the tragedy of family breakdown to justify breaking down some new family norms: "When I think about the number of kids with an absent parent, I think it's pretty great that my daughter has three adults in her life to give her time and attention and care. And with all the varieties of loving, blended families in the world, I fail to see why mine should be considered any differently."

  • Finally, put words in your child's mouth. When my daughter talks about same-sex marriage or polyamorous relationships, she always looks perplexed and says, "I don't understand why anyone is angry about people being in love and not hurting anyone." Make your child into the defender of your lifestyle and protector of your sexual minority rights. Children love their parents to death, they will be happy to repress their ambivalence and defend you.

Ah, those polyamorous "pioneers." Forging Brave New Families. Breaking down stereotypes and cultural norms. Those norms that teach us to cleave unto one wife only and give our children the stability of knowing they come from a family which respects the laws of nature and of nature's God. The norms that provide our children love and stability that come from being conceived in marriage between the mother and father who made you, welcomed you, loved you, and built a family for you.

But don't worry, the Log Cabin Republicans want you to know: Abraham Lincoln would approve of "marriage equality" as a conservative idea.

Abraham Lincoln the American hero who founded the GOP to battle what he called the twin "barbarisms" of slavery and polygamy. Wonder if young Angelo even has a clue about why the Republican Party came into existence.

The postmodern lies multiply on top of each other.

Thank you for being one of the People of truth. Together, with courage and with love, we will not abandon what God has joined.


Brian S. Brown

Gay Marriage Advocates Back to Courts to Redefine Marriage

NOM National Newsletter

Gay 'Marriage' Advocates Back to Using Courts to Impose Genderless Marriage

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Even while they claim to the media that 'the wind of public opinion is at their back' after the election last November, the actions of homosexual marriage advocates show they don’t really believe that voters support redefining marriage.

As gay marriage advocates lose faith in the democratic process, they are turning to courts to impose genderless marriage in more and more states — just yesterday the ACLU and Lambda Legal filed a federal class action lawsuit seeking to overturn Virginia's marriage amendment. In nearly 15 states, lawsuits have been filed to overturn state laws and amendments protecting marriage as the union of one man and one woman.

Gay Marriage Began Yesterday in Minnesota and Rhode Island, Two States Where Legislators Redefined Marriage

In Minnesota, many voters are shocked and saddened, as even the mainstream media reports.

Yesterday, NPR reported,

"But many people in the state are still shocked by the whole idea. When a gay marriage ban was on the ballot last fall, only a dozen among Minnesota's 87 counties opposed it."

"Away from the cities, you're going to see a lot of legislators voted out," says Dean Walters, a teacher in Owatonna."

Heading into a hardware store in Crosslake, David Johnson says that same-sex marriage not only violates "the biblical definition of marriage," but may be part of a long line of societal trends such as divorce and out-of-wedlock births that have undermined family life.

"I have great concerns when you tamper with the institution that has been the fundamental building block of societies for hundreds if not thousands of years," Johnson says. "I see consequences already from how we've damaged the institution of marriage."

Gene Ohman, a custom furniture builder camping along Cross Lake, says the "building blocks of our culture" are falling apart.

"The gays can do what they want — I'm not going to judge them — but our kids are confused enough," he says. "People are trying to find the happy ever after, but they won't find it without God."

"To me, the moral compass is disintegrating," said Mary Schommer of Mendota Heights. "Not just changing — disintegrating."

Similarly, the Minneapolis Star Tribune reports,

"Many in the group" reports the Star Tribune, "said they are angry with legislators who voted same-sex marriage into law. But they feel utterly betrayed by those politicians who, during the run-up to the November election, downplayed the proposed constitutional amendment banning gay marriage as redundant because of the existing state law against such unions.

"I thought it was so dishonest the way it was promoted," said Keith Stanton of Mendota Heights. "They said this will change nothing. They said they wouldn't [change the law.]"

They lied, in other words, to get what they wanted. They treated the people of Minnesota with disrespect. And many are not just going to take it!

What hurts them most about seeing society change around them? Being called bigots, they said. Feeling forced to accept something they believe is wrong.

"I have to accept that there are crosses in life," Cherucheril said. "After all, you are following someone who died on a cross, who carried a cross. What do you expect in life? You will carry a cross at times. Yet we are people of hope."

NOM has announced we will help state groups seeking to hold politicians accountable to their own constituents:

"This is a sad day in Minnesota and Rhode Island as politicians have allowed a mockery to be made of the institution of marriage, which throughout our history has been our only social institution to bring men and women together for the benefit of any children born of their union,"

I told the press. "Today Minnesota and Rhode Island embark on a new path that jettisons the interests of children from their state marriage law, and puts people of faith in harm's way for being punished for their beliefs. We will work tirelessly to hold the politicians accountable for this travesty."

Virtually no politician in Minnesota or Rhode Island ran on a platform that openly pledged that he or she would redefine marriage if elected to office. Yet, when given the opportunity, they did so, behind the people's back. NOM has pledged to spend up to $500,000 in Minnesota and $100,000 in Rhode Island informing voters about the issues.

But the good people of Minnesota are not giving up: Yesterday Minnesota for Marriage announced the launch of the Marriage Majority Initiative, which will work to restore a pro-marriage majority in the Minnesota House of Representatives.

My good friend John Helmberger, Chairman of Minnesota for Marriage and CEO of Minnesota Family Council reported,

"Minnesotans around the state have been asking ‘what's next?' after a group of legislators forced same-sex ‘marriage' on the state. The Marriage Majority Initiative will help them answer that question by restoring a pro-Marriage majority in their state government. We are blessed to live in a country where The People can choose their representation. And, when their chosen representation fails them, the People have the opportunity to choose new leaders."

He said his group will focus on three things:

  • Provide critical legal information to pastors and churches, religious organizations, business owners, employers and more about the threats to their religious liberty and the steps they can take to maximize their legal protection while upholding God's design for marriage
  • Help constituents whose legislators betrayed their confidence by supporting same-sex 'marriage' to hold those legislators accountable and choose leaders who will better represent their values in next year's election.
  • In partnership with our network of 1,400 churches, develop and implement marriage strengthening ministries and outreach, applying ourselves to the long-term priority of changing hearts and minds to restore a culture of marriage and family, rooted in a biblical worldview.

Meanwhile kudos to all you Pennsylvanians who responded to our call to let Gov. Corbett know you want him to defend marriage and the rule of law.

Recently Pennsylvania attorney general Kathleen Kane announced she would not defend Pennsylvania's marriage laws, and Montgomery County decided to "pull a San Francisco" and just start issuing gay marriage licenses, in defiance of state law. However, with your encouragement and the work of allies, Gov. Corbett has agreed to defend the state marriage law in the courts, and the Pennsylvania Department of Health has sued Montgomery County official Bruce Hanes, to prevent him from taking the law into his own hands.

If you haven't yet thanked Gov. Corbett for his defense of marriage, you can do so today!

Another governor not backing down is Indiana's Mike Pence, who told an audience that he will defend marriage and supports the expected Indiana Marriage Amendment. He pointed out many of the states that define marriage in their state constitutions as one man and one woman are among the nation's fastest growing economies,

"I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. I do support efforts to allow the people of Indiana to make that decision whether we include the traditional definition of marriage in our state constitution and I think that's appropriate," Pence said.

Thank Gov. Mike Pence for standing tall for marriage!

What happens if we don't fight for what's right, for marriage and for our rights?

San Antonio politicians laid out the next step in the agenda of our opponents: prevent anyone who doesn't believe in gay marriage from working for the government — and next, like night follows day, bar them from doing business with the government.

The San Antonio City Council is considering a proposal that not only adds sexual orientation and gender identity to anti-discrimination ordinances, but indicates that anyone who has ever spoken out in public against same-sex marriage or homosexuality could be subject to the sanctions of this ordinance. The San Antonio gay rights community calls the ordinance the "bare minimum," hinting at broader sanctions to come.

Thanks to the hundreds of you who wrote to Gov. Rick Perry to let him know: we need heroes for marriage and asked him to intervene to stop the madness in San Antonio.

If you haven't yet thanked our heroes, including Gov. Perry, do so right now. It just takes a few minutes. And then share this email with as many family and friends as possible.

The Young and Daring in a Brave New World

World magazine covered the "It Takes a Family" conference in San Diego, which is hosted each year by NOM's Ruth Institute in order to bring together next generation leaders, the heart of the daring new counterculture for marriage

World called its coverage of new young heroes "Roaring Lambs".

Mechi Richards, 20, came from Buenos Aires, to learn how to defend and sustain marriage in a post-gay marriage culture. Richards said classmates mock her and commenters leave nasty comments on her blog, but she also has friends her age who are starting to get jaded by the sexual revolution and searching for something else." She also came with a warning:She said many Argentineans didn't think the new law would affect them, but passage has led to a completely redesigned sexual education that teaches gender equality and minimizes the traditional family. Teachers of religious backgrounds are having a difficult time keeping their jobs because pro-gay language is often required in every class, including math where word problems now contain homosexual examples."

Daring to Go Counterculture: Alana Newman speaking at the ITAF conference.

Alana Newman, 26, became interested in family issues through her own experience as a donor-conceived individual. "Society doesn't recognize the sadness we feel not knowing our parents," Newman told the conference. The stories on the Anonymous Us website reveal concerns about abandonment, betrayal, and identity, accidental incest, and lack of knowledge of medical history.

And World reported on our own beloved Thomas Peters, 27, "who arrived at the conference fresh from victory in Illinois." (Thanks for all of you who've sent prayers, words of comfort, and practical support to Thomas as he and his young bride deal with the aftermath of a serious neck injury from a swimming accident.)

"Peters said he did not plan to get involved with such a divisive issue, knowing "it would brand me," but he decided instead of staying silent he'd rather fight for a world where his values could exist."

Thank you for all you've helped us do to prevent the creation of a brave new world where none dare stand up for God's vision of marriage.

These young heroes need your support. We need your prayers, your willingness to act by signing petitions and writing letters, and if God has given you the means, your financial sacrifices to keep God's vision of marriage alive, and to support the people brave enough to stand up for what's right in a lawless and corrupt environment.

Is God calling you to be that person?

Pray and let us know.

It's an honor to serve you, our beloved country, and this great cause.


Brian S. Brown

The Lawlessness of Gay Marriage Activists is on Full Display

NOM National Newsletter

Lawlessness Spreads From California...

Dear Marriage Supporter,

It's lawless — but it's executed by courts, politicians, and legal officials being pushed by powerful gay marriage activists to abandon their oath of office to uphold the Constitution and the law. In the eyes of our opponents, and increasingly among their allies, the right of homosexuals to "marry" trumps everything else — including the rule of law!

In California, state officials beholden to gay marriage activists are ordering all marriage clerks to ignore Prop 8 — despite the fact the California state constitution requires officials to uphold laws on the books until they are overturned by an appellate court. Despite what the media wants you to believe, Prop 8 has NOT been overturned in this manner.

These are the same politicians who refused to defend Proposition 8, which resulted in a homosexual judge in San Francisco invalidating it — something the US Supreme Court tragically allowed to stand when they refused to hear the appeal of the measure. A San Diego county clerk responsible for issuing marriage licenses understandably wants some direction on what the law requires of him, yet he's being treated like a criminal by the very people who are mocking the state constitution. Because he's asking for a clear direction from the state's highest court — he's treated like an outlaw. Pennsylvania, Ohio and Who Knows Where Next?

In Pennsylvania, Montgomery County's Register of Wills (the person who issues marriage licenses) suddenly decided he can ignore Pennsylvania law and give marriage licenses to same-sex couples. The guy claims he did it only after reading Justice Kennedy's opinion in the Windsor case striking down part of the federal DOMA law, and concluded that gay couples should have the right to marry even though Pennsylvania law defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman. Kudos to the Office of General Counsel for the Governor for insisting "Individual elected officials cannot pick and choose which laws to enforce," as their press secretary Nils Hagen-Frederiksen wrote in a released statement. "All officials are constitutionally required to administer and enforce the laws that are enacted by the Legislature."

In Ohio, a federal judge intervened to order state officials to ignore the state's marriage law and treat a same-sex couple as married when completing vital records. Ohio voters amended their Constitution in 2004 to protect marriage by an overwhelming majority, but this judge has chosen to be a law unto himself and trample on the will of the people.

New cases are being added to the docket all the time — North Carolina's marriage amendment, passed a year ago by 61 percent of the voters is now under judicial attack. But so are the laws of over a dozen states, including Michigan, Illinois, New Jersey and even Arkansas.

I will not mislead you: we are in the middle of an orchestrated takedown of marriage by gay activists and their allies in power, one unconcerned with the rule of law, or respect for those of us who believe now, yesterday and tomorrow that marriage is the union of male and female, oriented towards the good of new life, and necessary for the protection of children.

NOM'S Schubert: "The Truth of Marriage Will Prevail"

Frank Schubert, one of the heroes in enacting of Prop 8 and NOM's national political director, took a few weeks to respond to all the constant requests for how he feels about the Court's refusal to defend the rights of the 7 million voters who enacted Prop 8.

He wrote this week in Public Discourse,

"It's only natural for people to want to know how I feel about the outcome, not only from a policy perspective but also from a personal perspective. After all, I put my heart into managing (and winning) the Prop 8 campaign in 2008, and since then have spent much of my professional career working on preserving marriage throughout the nation.

Here's how I feel.

I feel like we were cheated. Just like I felt as a kid watching the bad guy put a sleeper hold on his opponent [in a pro wrestling match], or hitting him below the belt or with the brass knuckles while the referee had his back turned, so have the legal system and politicians cold-cocked the people of California — seven million of whom went to the polls to lawfully enact Prop 8. Only this time, I realize there's not likely to be a rematch. The cheaters won.

I feel like the rule of law has been shredded, and conniving politicians have been rewarded for ignoring their sworn oath of office. Public confidence in the judicial system has been dealt a severe blow. Supporters of same-sex "marriage" may be happy with the result today, but hold on until the tables are turned and a conservative governor and attorney general refuse to defend a law they don't personally support, and there's nobody left with standing to defend it....

I feel like a broadside has ripped a great hole in the initiative and referendum process itself. I have managed nearly forty statewide ballot initiative campaigns in my career. The initiative process is one of the few viable ways to get a recalcitrant government to respond to legitimate issues that are not being addressed by the legislature or the state administration. By its nature, citizens are often pushing a law that is opposed by those in power.

Now those very people in power — the governor and attorney general — have been given a pocket veto over the initiative process itself. They can invalidate any measure they don't personally support simply by refusing to defend it in federal court."

When like you and me and Frank, you put your heart and soul in defending what you believe is good, using the God-given rights guaranteed in our Constitution — and then watching one arrogant Justice take away your rights — of course you feel cheated.

But Frank, a great man, goes on:

"I think about people like Scott Eckern, a distinguished musical producer, who was forced to resign from the California Musical Theater in Sacramento over his $1,000 contribution in support of Prop 8. I think about Marjorie Christofferson, a then-67-year-old employee at her family-owned Mexican restaurant in Los Angeles, who was forced to take a leave from the business over donating a mere $100 to our campaign.

...And I think about the 250,000 volunteers in our campaign who walked precincts, knocked on doors, and manned phone banks, including Jose Nunez, a proud immigrant and newly sworn-in US citizen, who was physically assaulted by a Prop 8 opponent while waiting to distribute signs outside his Catholic church.

All of these people paid a tremendous price. They, and the voters, deserved better than to be left undefended before the legal system, abandoned by those sworn to defend them, ignored by judges determined to impose a particular result, and then orphaned by the Supreme Court as the great referee pretended not to see all the nefarious activity going on with the case right in front of them."

Justice has not been done.

"The decisions worry me," writes Frank, "I am actually less worried about the damage done to the institution of marriage than I am about the damage done to the body politic."

He's right when he says, "Marriage is an eternal truth, and a profound good. Its value to society is inestimable. No government, judge, or politician has the power to change the inherent nature of marriage. In the end, the truth of marriage will prevail, even if the law decides to abandon it for a time."

But our democracy he points out is much more fragile. "When the votes of millions of people are ignored by the elites in government, when politicians can ignore their oath of office and assume for themselves extra-constitutional authority, when judges can ignore their own internal conflicts and impose their own political views on an issue in direct contravention of the expressed desires of the people, and when the Supreme Court can turn a blind eye to the matter and let the politicians and judges get away with it, public confidence in government is seriously, and perhaps permanently, eroded."

No Regrets

"Some of my friends wonder if I regret taking on Prop 8, and my subsequent work in support of marriage, life, and religious liberty. The answer is no, not for a minute. I've never regretted standing for the truth, and I don't regret it now. I'm not worried in the least about any impact on me, and I'll continue to work on behalf of these critical issues. The answer to those who ask how I am doing is simply this: worry not for me, worry for thee."

Frank has no regrets and neither do I. We cannot walk away from the fight, because the fight is for our freedom, and for truth.

The first battle is in our own hearts and minds; the first fight is the spiritual battle: will we give up and acquiesce to this radical new definition of marriage and the lawlessness promoting it? Or will we dig down and find the courage to fight for what is right?

One thing I know: no man or woman can fight this fight alone. We must fight together, in love, for the truth about marriage, and the truth about democracy and human rights.

The Corruption in Law and Government Continues to Spread.

The latest news from the IRS scandal is that it was not rogue Ohio agents responsible for the politicization of the IRS. President Obama appoints the general counsel to the IRS — and agents were told to send all cases to his office for review. Did the Obama Administration play a role in the IRS giving our confidential tax return to the Human Rights Campaign (whose president was a Co-Chair of the Obama campaign), which promptly and illegally disclosed the identity of numerous NOM donors? It's time for people to be subpoenaed to testify before Congress, and put under oath so that we can get to the bottom of this scandal.

When it comes to gay marriage, they want not only their victory, they want your submission — the rule of law be damned.

The battles will continue, but let's be clear — what we're fighting for is much greater than the definition of marriage. We're fighting not only for the right to believe in the truth of God's teaching, but to act on that truth in the public square without fear of governmental reprisal. For if we lose that right, we've lost everything — liberty, independence, and eventually the nation itself.

This week I have one urgent action request to make of you my friend to take a stand against lawlessness and corruption:

Call your Congressman and tell him or her to support HR2565, the Stop IRS ACT. Click here to learn more and to contact your elected officials.

Together we cannot stand by while our government is corrupted, our laws ignored, our rights taken away.

Together we will not agree to go quietly — to be stigmatized, marginalized or repressed.

God willing, they will not succeed in their goal of silencing us, taking away our rights, and remaking America in their own image.

God bless you and thank you, and may God bless our beloved America.

The Heroes Emerging

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Gay marriage activists are filing lawsuits across this country to strike down marriage laws. Already they have in place lawsuits intended to wipe out the marriage laws of all but twelve states. And that's before they get into the Supreme Court again.

Justice Scalia said, too many judges will do what they think they can get away with.

Now is the time to ACT, and I'm asking you to help marriage hero Tim Huelskamp (R-Kan.) who has reintroduced a federal Marriage Protection Amendment. Write your representatives and senator today to demand justice for marriage and for kids and for traditional religious believers!

Hero Pastors Standing up in PA

Recently, NOM's founding Chairman Robby George went on BlazeTV to explain the recent court decision and our call to action today!

The corruption from this decision is already spreading to Pennsylvania, where pastors are demanding the Democratic Attorney General Kathleen Kane defend the state's marriage laws from an ACLU-filed lawsuit in federal court.

This story is not going to just fade away, I promise you. The people of Pennsylvania are about fairness and the rule of law. Kane still has the chance to change her mind, do her job, and defend the laws of the state of Pennsylvania. Or voters will hold her accountable.

If you live in Pennsylvania, let Governor Corbett and your state legislators know right away that you want Pennsylvania's marriage laws vigorously defended in court, and that they should act quickly to give the people of the Keystone state the right to vote on the fate of marriage.

A Hero Senator Demanding Justice

Also happening this week, breaking news on the unfolding IRS corruption/scandal — with the scandal now moving from the IRS to the Justice Department.

You know that NOM was the first organization to release hard proof that its confidential tax records were revealed to our political opponent.

J. Russell George testified before Congress on Thursday. He is the inspector general of the IRS, and he has acknowledged in a letter that IRS officials have in at least one instance willfully targeted political candidates for audits or improperly disclosed tax records — and that the Justice Department declined to prosecute!

Is that NOM's case, or some other felony being covered up by the Justice Department?

Another marriage hero, Sen. Charles Grassley (R-Iowa), has stepped up, writing a letter to U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder asking for details on who made the decision not to prosecute and why. Grassley wrote:

The IRS is required to act with neutrality and professionalism, not political bias. The Justice Department should answer completely and not hide behind taxpayer confidentiality laws to avoid accountability for its decision not to prosecute a violation of taxpayer confidentiality laws. The public needs to know whether the decision not to prosecute these violations was politically motivated and whether the individuals responsible were held accountable in any other way.

So the center of gravity of the IRS investigation is shifting from the IRS's Cincinnati branch office to Washington, and from Washington to the Justice Department.

In the American Thinker this week, Scott Varland makes the case (admittedly speculative at this point) that AG Eric Holder is staying in office to make sure the investigations into corruption in the IRS are never coordinated or pursued with vigor. If so, that would put the corruption at the highest levels of government!

Varland makes mention of our own John Eastman in making his case:

Dr. John Eastman (Chairman of the Board, National Organization for Marriage) makes the most convincing argument for probable cause with regard to the release of tax returns. In his June 4, 2013, testimony before the House Ways and Means Committee, he described in detail the criminal activity of IRS employees. On March 30, 2012, the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) learned that its confidential 2008 Form 990 Schedule B, containing donors' names, had been published on websites. NOM removed the published document's redaction layer and discovered that the document had originated within the IRS itself. The unredacted original bore two IRS markings. Someone at the IRS had disseminated the unredacted original for publication. On April 11, 2012, NOM filed a written request for investigation with Attorney General Holder's Department of Justice and the Treasury. The latter assigned a complaint number, but Justice and Treasury have done nothing since.

The release of our confidential tax information was and remains a crime, a felony! The IRS refusal to prosecute or investigate would transform an individual criminal act into serious government corruption at the highest levels.

As Varland notes, "The release for publication of confidential tax returns provides the most clear cut example of criminal conduct and the Obama Administration's ongoing cover-up of that conduct."

Another witness testifying before Congress on Thursday is Elizabeth Hofacre, a revenue agent. In June, she disputed the claim that political scrutiny of Tea Party applications was the work of "rogue agents" in Cincinnati. When IRS chief Lois Lerner first blamed it on the Ohio office, Hofacre described it as a "nuclear strike" on that office.

Well, it was a nuclear strike on all of us, too — on the idea of fair government and respect for the law.

We will not stop fighting for your rights, whatever the intimidation techniques powerful people try to use to stop us! Please help us stand up to these legal travesties and to continue to speak truth to power and be your voice for your values in Washington and across the nation.

A Hero Lawyer Defending Our Rights

On Friday my friend and hero Chuck LiMandri (who was one of the first to help us get Prop 8 on the ballot!) will be in court in New Jersey, taking on the goliath Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) and its new militant attempt to misuse consumer fraud laws to attack a small Jewish nonprofit named JONAH that helps observant Jews with same-sex attraction live according to the Bible's laws.

This is one of the hugest stories you've never been told by the media: the SPLC wants to use its $250 million budget and 7 full-time staff lawyers to bankrupt therapists, counselors, and religious nonprofits that offer help to people with unwanted same-sex attraction. And they are misusing "consumer fraud" statutes to do it.

I suspect SPLC picked a Jewish service organization first because they were hoping many of us in the Christian community would ignore it. But whatever you think about sexual orientation, it's wrong to tell people they can't ask for help to live their sexual lives as they choose, not as the SPLC's lawyers want them to do.

This is a test case, in other words: if the SPLC wins, they hope to use it to unleash bankrupting civil lawsuits against 70 or more pro-family groups. They were hoping no one would take the case on and that JONAH would be left to fluster with little or no legal help.

The SPLC wasn't counting on the courage of Chuck LiMandri. He's a fantastic, first-class trial lawyer with a successful law practice in San Diego. For years he worked pro-bono winning cases like the Mt. Soldedad Cross case and the San Diego Firefighters case (where the government tried to force firefighters to appear in a gay pride gay against their will).

Chuck has just started up a public interest law firm, so he can defend us all from the mounting attacks that are coming from those well-heeled gay rights groups that want to shut down and threaten groups they disagree with. Chuck's new nonprofit law firm the Conscience Defense Fund adds wonderful resources to the fight to protect traditional believers in this country.

If you want to learn more about this amazing man, and his amazing work, go to

A Hero Friend in Need of Prayers

Finally, I'd like to ask you for your prayers for our young, valiant marriage champion Thomas Peters. He is in the hospital in stable but critical condition due to a spinal injury following a swimming accident.

He is aware of the prayers that have been offered all over the world, from those who both agree and disagree with Thomas' pro-marriage convictions.

He and his wife Natalie and their families are grateful for your prayerful support, and so am I. Please continue to keep Thomas in mind and we will do our best to update you on his condition as we know more.

As always, thank you for all your support and prayers, for standing with us in so many ways. Together, thanks to you, and by the grace of God, we will not falter, we will not fail, we will stand with love for the truth about marriage.

Now It's Our Turn: Fight or Submit?

NOM National Newsletter

The Supreme Court has issued its rulings, threatening our right to protect marriage and to be respected as sincere in our actions as we do it.

Now it's our turn: fight or submit?

Its been a busy week fighting for God's truth about marriage on National TV in the wake of what Maggie Gallagher called the Supreme Court's “fatwa” against millions of Americans who believe marriage is the union of husband and wife:



If you are as mad as I am at this judicial usurpation of our rights as Americans, know this: you and I are not alone.

A Rasmussen poll released after the Supreme Court issued its terrible rulings on marriage reports Americans' support for the Supreme Court is plunging: Just 28 percent say the Court is doing an excellent or good job, while 69 percent say the Court is doing only a fair or poor job. “[P]ublic approval of the court has fallen to the lowest level ever recorded in more than nine years of polling,” reports Rasmussen. (And yes, liberal positive views of the court remain unchanged, it is the slippage among conservatives and moderates—more than 30 points since 2009—that is making the difference).

I'm not going to give you a song and dance: things are going to get tough. The sunshine patriots will retreat; the RINO's will be cowed.

Already a Colorado Christian named Jack Phillips faces a year in jail. His crime? Politely declining to bake a gay wedding cake!

This is not Jim Crow. Jack Phillips and others like him are not trying to force gay marriage advocates into a ghetto, or drink at separate water fountains. Jack is a man whose conscience does not allow him to participate in a gay wedding ceremony, which he sees as contrary to God's law.

How many people are going to be threatened with jail, the loss of their livelihoods, attacks on their good name, or worse if you and I do not stand up and fight back now?

Is Justice Anthony Kennedy's America the America you want to leave your children and grandchildren?

Not me, not mine, not my household, and not millions of other decent, loving, law-abiding Americans who refuse to be cowed, to accept the second-class status Justice Kennedy's America lays out for us.

Our 5-Point Plan to Fight Back

That's why NOM has announced our 5-point plan to sustain the movement for marriage in America and to protect your rights in the public square.

They are counting on you and me to give up and throw in the towel. We are going to instead surprise them with a redoubled defense of marriage in states from Indiana to Oregon. We will make sure the Republicans who have betrayed you across the United States feel your anger at their willingness to sell out marriage.

The ACLU has already announced plans to overturn marriage in Virginia, Illinois, North Carolina and New Jersey. They are coming soon to your state to overturn your votes and your values. NOM is working with national and state allies to ensure the best legal talent is available to protect your state's marriage laws. NOM was not only the biggest funder of Proposition 8, we were one of the biggest donors to Prop 8's legal defense fund.

We've seen what gay marriage means for Jack Phillips and other people of faith: outrageous new government pressures and penalties. We cannot accept this un-American status quo. NOM is working with topflight legal experts (like our Chairman, the distinguished constitutional law scholar and litigator Prof. John Eastman) to develop effective new protections at the national and state level for people of faith; we will call on Congress to pass new legislation; we will fight to elect Congressmen, Senators and a President who will stand tall and protect your most cherished rights.

This is an expensive new undertaking made absolutely necessary and mission-critical by Justice Kennedy's announced contempt for our Constitution, and your rights.

(You can learn more about NOM's plan to fight for marriage, for democracy and for your freedom, right here: “The Path Forward”)

Will you help us fight against Justice Kennedy's America and for your freedom? We need your prayers and we need your financial support to sustain a movement–today, tomorrow and twenty years into the future.

Like our prolife brothers and sisters, we now face a choice: submit or fight back. Millions of Americans must refuse to submit when the Supreme Court makes a ruling that is wrong on the facts, wrong on the Constitution, and wrong in the eyes of God.

Bobby's Story

Prof. Robert Oscar Lopez who recently won his fight for tenure at the University of California, has emerged as a advocate for the rights of children raised by same-sex couples.

The single most effective statement I've every seen was Bobby's testimony before the Minnesota State legislature, on what it was like for him to grow up without a father, but instead with two moms:


On Tuesday Prof. Lopez decided to share more of his personal story, and why he refused to be cowed or silenced:

“We all have or had a father. He's not replaceable with another mother. Sorry, he just isn't.

If the father's not part of our lives growing up, we suffer. There is a vacuum there. Often we seek the missing father's love through means that become self-destructive: over-pleasing bosses or male authority figures, sleeping with older men, drinking, drugs, lousy friends, narcissism.”

For years Lopez endured this self-inflicted abuse, seeking gay relationships with older men. For years he would have been one of those young men who said growing up with two moms and no dad was just fine with him:

“For the vast majority of my life, I didn't think about fatherhood. I grew up without a father around, so it didn't matter to me. I not only had no examples of what a father did--I also didn't care that I had no such examples. In a way I felt like it was cool to have grown up with a lesbian mom and her partner. We were unique. The fact that my father showed little concern for me seemed liberating--it indicated to me that I could show little concern for others, and somewhere a woman or maybe two women could pick up the slack for me. There was a sense of satisfaction in me, as a teenager, knowing that I could leap into the gay life, have all the sex I wanted, and never have to worry about being a dad because I couldn't get anyone pregnant. The thought of being gay was fabulous to me back then, circa 1985. Sex, sex, sex, no kids to worry about. No sacrifices. Best of all, I'd be able to go through adult life never having to revisit the missing figure in my life--the father who wasn't there for me. I could distract myself endlessly from the necessary healing that I'd have to undertake.”

What changed Prof. Lopez life, by the grace of God, was a two-part miracle: falling in love with a woman, and having a child with her:

“My daughter was born and I loved her. I never had a moment of feeling anything toward her but love. But it became very clear, after my little girl was born, that there is a LOT more to being a parent than loving your kid. (This is where same-sex parenting advocates get it all wrong. Love is the least of your worries, the part that comes easiest. It's the duty to be a good parent that's tough.)

My wife didn't mince words; that's not her style. She told me point-blank I would have to be a good father to our daughter. “

Change took time and came hard, and it was a choice: “I didn't like fixing things, giving up drinking, or having to stick around and teach my daughter the rules of life. It just wasn't my style.

I was, I realized, just like my dad. I didn't want to be bothered. I didn't feel like a child should cramp my style or impede any of the plans I'd set for my own life. I assumed that as long as I felt something I called love in my heart, I could treat fatherhood as a part-time, temporary job.”

While serving in the Army Reserve in Afghanistan, he realized one day he was hoping to be killed so his wife could collect the $500,000 insurance policy and support their child:

“It dawned on me that day in 2010. I was a piece of [excrement], and there was no excuse for what I was doing. Wanting to die on the battlefield so I could have my cake and eat it too, be called a hero while escaping the task of being a real dad, was lower than low.”

That's when he finally made the choice to take on the magnificent calling of fatherhood and husbandhood and put it at the center of his life.

To break the cycle, finally.

Men do this only when they know they are necessary and important, and cannot be replaced in their children's life.

And that's why I, like Bobby, and like millions of other Americans continue to fight for the truth, for what's right, for marriage:

“Lesbian moms allow the sources of their children's sperm to run off and be unbothered, saying to themselves, 'those two [women] will care for my kid … I don't owe the world anything.' Gay dads are just two pairs of men running off to live in a world of men, avoiding the hassles and … demands of the women who bear them children. Both forms of same-sex parenting pass on more broken family ties, cause more erasure, sever children from their origins, and teach men to be fatherless and feckless all at once.”

Thanks to each one of you who makes this fight possible, through your letters of encouragement, through your financial sacrifices, and through your prayers, which our country needs now more than ever.

We will not cower, we will not run, we will fight for God's truth about marriage, and for our rights as freeborn Americans to participate in the democratic process on an equal basis.

Thank you for making this possible.

Waiting But Not Idle, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

We continue to await news from the Supreme Court in the Proposition 8 and DOMA cases — please continue to pray and stay tuned in for updates! We expect the decisions to be handed down next week.

In the meantime, we are not idle!

Praising African-American Pastors

Today I'm published in National Review Online's popular The Corner blog,
pointing out the "funny thing" that happened on the way to the "inevitable" redefining of marriage — it didn't happen!

"What happened in Illinois is huge. It's the last major state to consider redefining marriage before the U.S. Supreme Court issues its ruling on the constitutionality of California's Proposition 8 upholding traditional marriage. It's so important, in fact, that the mainstream media is doing everything it can to avoid having to report on what happened — an example of the overwhelming media bias in favor of same-sex marriage ...

What happened in Illinois is that African-American pastors worked hard to reach and convince African-American legislators to stand tall for the truth of marriage — that it is an institution created by God to bring men and women together for the benefit of children that can only be created through the union of men and women. That's what marriage is, and that's the truth that these pastors demanded that legislators recognize.

President Obama tried to defeat them by personally lobbying legislators. So did Governor Quinn and Mayor Emanuel. They all failed..."

They all failed because YOU stood up for the truth of marriage and we refused to back down. Thank you for that.

Here I am addressing the Tea Party Patriot's "Audit the IRS" rally in Washington, D.C. yesterday:

I shared with them NOM's story of the IRS leaking our confidential tax returns. And I told them "the purpose of the targeting by the IRS is intimidation and an attempt to silence us." I asked them "Will you be silenced?" They shouted back: "NO!"

Wait, the media is biased?!

The Pew Research Center came out with a report this week that told us what we already knew — that the media is hugely in the tank for same-sex 'marriage':

"In a period marked by Supreme Court deliberations on the subject, the news media coverage provided a strong sense of momentum towards legalizing same-sex marriage, according to a new study by the Pew Research Center. Stories with more statements supporting same-sex marriage outweighed those with more statements opposing it by a margin of roughly 5-to-1."

When it comes to marriage the media doesn't cover the news, it tries to shape it.

And yet, the Pew same report observed that comments about marriage on the social media platform Twitter were far more even (because social media more accurately reflects the real conversations taking place everyday across America than your average big-city newsroom):

On social media, the opinions expressed on Twitter were closely split between those that supported (31%) and those that opposed (28%). There were, however, significant shifts in the sentiment over the nine weeks studied. During the week prior to and the week of the Court hearings, more of the Twitter conversation favored same-sex marriage. The two following weeks saw a reverse with more posts in opposition. Then, during the last month of the study, assertions in favor of the measure once again took the lead.

Thank you to all of you who share the pro-marriage message via social media. If you aren't already following us on Twitter and liking us on Facebook now would be a great time to do so! We are also now on Pinterest — sharing the best pro-marriage visuals we find and create.

Young Marriage Movement Gaining Steam

I want to make sure you saw this interview with Ryan Anderson of the Heritage Foundation and Caitlin Seery of the Love and Fidelity Network — both young marriage leaders — on CBN News:

"...a traditional marriage movement whose leaders represent a new generation has entered the game, and it is gaining steam.

"The other side has been preparing the seeds for this debate for 20 or 30 years and they've been well-prepared, well-organized and the response is just in its infancy," Ryan Anderson, with the Heritage Foundation, told CBN News.

... The New York Times recently recognized Anderson and other movement leaders like Caitlin Seery, who directs the Love and Fidelity Network on college campuses.

"We are trying to help students prepare themselves for healthy marriages so they will then raise healthy families because healthy families are the foundation of our society," Seery told CBN News.

What Seery, Anderson, and other supporters of traditional marriage have in common is a willingness to face fierce opposition and think outside the box about what is possible."

Yes, a new generation of marriage leaders is entering the fray, because the truth about marriage is eternal. Every generation must choose to make our marriage tradition their own. And each generation must decide what the next generation deserves — what their children deserve.

Please join me in praying for these young marriage leaders, and that we can pass on to them a strong marriage culture.

Speaking of prayer, please join me in praying that the Supreme Court will respect the conversations going on across America everyday about marriage by allowing the debate to continue.

And pray the Supreme Court recognizes and respects the truth about marriage, a truth that the next generation and our children so deeply deserve.

Father's Day, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

What is our relationship with our own bodies? Father's Day is an occasion for meditating on the important reality of our bodies, what they tell us about who we are and how we should live our life.

I write this not because, as the father of 8, I need some outside force to speak to me but because we live in a time and a place where the obvious is often obscured.

Consideration for Father's Day

Witness the New York Times blog piece by Florida International University professor Laurie Shrage, seeking to recruit men to the ideology of "choice."

"If a man accidentally conceives a child with a woman, his choices are surprisingly few," this women's and gender studies woman professor intones. Shrage goes on to say:

"In consenting to sex, neither a man nor a woman gives consent to become a parent, just as in consenting to any activity, one does not consent to yield to all the accidental outcomes that might flow from that activity."

In other words, in choosing to engage in the act which creates new life — neither men nor women should be held accountable to that new life.

I understand the impulse. I understand it and I reject it, as a man.

We cannot pretend that what is not true, is true.

This is true: The sexual act creates new life.

Not always, not every time, but often enough that we who choose to be responsible human beings need to acknowledge that reality, to love our children more than our lusts.

And to know that doing so is the heart of being a good man or woman, and a happy man or woman.

The IRS Scandals Continue to Reverberate

Here I am on Sean Hannity:

"If they can do this to us, they can do it to anyone!" I say, and it's true.

It's also true that a culture of harassment, intimidation and threats has emerged among gay marriage advocates that is poisoning our democracy.

Harassment, Intimidation and Threats in New York

The latest example is NYC mayoral candidate Erick Salgado, who received death threats after NOM endorsed his candidacy.

"[The emails] said that I'm a rat and I deserve to die," Mr. Salgado told Politicker after the forum. "It was because that day I got the official endorsement, the NOM, they mentioned that [in the email]."

"It makes me nervous, because of my children, I get nervous," he said.

As Politicker notes, Mr. Salgado is the only Democrat in the race opposed to same-sex marriage. He is attempting to build a coalition of conservative Latinos and Orthodox Jews and has the backing of a prominent Russian-American media mogul in south Brooklyn.

Consequences in Great Britain

Meanwhile, in Great Britain the consequences of gay marriage become ever clearer. Parents of a 3 year old boy came forward to say state-sponsored child care workers told their son he could marry a boy or a girl.

The letter said: "Many of your commentators have speculated as to what the wider implications of allowing same-sex marriages will be on society."

"I was given a stark illustration of this at the weekend."

"In response to my three-year-old son's question as to what marriage was, I told him that it was when a man and woman loved each other very much and wanted to spend their lives together."

"My son then told me that 'boys' could get married, too. As he doesn't read the newspapers, I was keen to understand how he had formed this view."

"Apparently, his carer at nursery, a homosexual, told the entire class that he had great news: when they grew up, they could get married to a girl, or a boy."

"Surely, my son is too young to have this discussion? If I were to complain, however, I would be labeled a bigot."

Peggy Noonan on the IRS

Let me close by thanking Peggy Noonan, the former Reagan speechwriter, for her columns calling attention to the IRS scandal and what it means.

"The most compelling evidence that the IRS targeted conservatives is what happened to the National Organization for Marriage. Its chairman, John Eastman, testified before the House Ways and Means Committee and the tale he told was different from the now-familiar stories of harassment and abuse," she wrote.

Someone in the IRS gave legally protected information to our — and your! — political enemies!

The IRS is stonewalling. But we will not give in or give up.

We will fight for your right to participate in the democratic process on an equal basis.

And we will fight the tyranny that says government can punish you if you believe in traditional marriage.

Bless you and thank you for your support. It is precious to me.

If God has given you the means, please consider prayerfully giving again.

Scurrilous, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

The epic events of the last week for marriage unfolded at breakneck speed: a huge victory for marriage, an attack on you and your rights that was truly "scurrilous" — But first the courage of one man who stood up for truth and justice in the halls of Congress.

Standing Up For All Our Rights

NOM's Chairman of the Board John Eastman went viral — and it's the result of his amazing courage and eloquence in standing up to some Democrats in Congress who argued traditional marriage supporters have no right to the same tax-exempt status that gay rights groups have.

When, shamefully, Rep. Earl Blumenauer said that NOM should be stripped of our nonprofit status because we oppose gay marriage, it was John Eastman who put him in his place.

"Scurrilous" is the word he used to describe these Democrats who do not respect your First Amendment rights, or the rights of millions of American to participate equally in the American public square.

"Representative Blumenauer, it's your kind of statement that have empowered IRS agents to make determinations about which organizations qualify for the public good and which do not."

The crowd burst into applause as Blumenauer, bow-tie in place looked sheepish.

"The notion that defending traditional marriage doesn't qualify as a defense of the public good is beyond preposterous," Eastman said, as some in the crowd gave him a standing ovation.

John Eastman was the man of the hour.

"The man at the center of the storm, who put up quite a storm today...John Eastman chairman of the National Organization for Marriage. John, you were on fire!" an admiring Neil Cavuto exclaimed on FOX Business.

"What they did to us is expose our tax returns to our political enemies... it's a felony to have done that and we can't get the Department of Justice to investigate or prosecute the people who committed that felony," said Prof. Eastman.

"What does that tell you?" Cavuto asked.

And here is where the seriousness of what we face in our beloved nation came shining through:

"We've got people in government and their allies outside of government that are willing to commit felonies to shut down their political opposition on major contested issues of the day," Eastman said.

"If you were impressed with Paul Ryan's retort to Jim McDermott today in the House hearing on the IRS scandal, get your seatbelts in place for John Eastman's ferocious, angry rebuttal to two other Democrats on the Ways and Means Committee," said Hot Air.

Sean Hannity called his testimony "stunning." "And it got that stunning applause, a standing ovation from some," Hannity added.

Again Eastman nailed the heart of this outrage: "Major policy disputes in this country are now resolved by intimidation and fear to try and shut down the opposition rather than to reason with people about what the best course for our policy judgments are."

Because you helped John Eastman and NOM stand up for your rights, the message is getting out everywhere:

You can read his opening statement here. Here's just a partial list of the media who covered John Eastman—and the felonies committed by someone in the IRS against traditional marriage supporters like you and me:

While watching Rep. Blumenauer and his colleagues say the IRS was right for targeting NOM — I wanted to ask him: "Rep. Blumenauer, we get money honestly, from free citizens who want to donate to a cause they and we believe in. When are you going to stand up and denounce the $431,360 in taxpayer "stimulus" money that funded a study in Nancy Pelosi's district of the emotional distress and sex life of 48 gay male fathers?" Almost a half million in your money, allegedly to stimulate the economy and produced not a single job? Because the academics who performed it are already employed at San Francisco State University (at taxpayer expense!).

Somebody in the IRS — we don't know how far up it goes — committed a felony releasing protected and private taxpayer information — and the Department of Justice does nothing. The IRS stonewalls. And Rep. Blumenauer says it's your fault for opposing gay marriage.


We will not stand down. We will not surrender marriage. We will not cave and surrender your rights — and the rights of millions of other decent, loving, law-abiding freeborn American citizens of every race and creed and color to participate in the public square on an equal basis and defend marriage and other things which are good and worth defending.

And together, we will win.

A Deep Blue Miracle

Less than a week ago, an unbelievable miracle occurred, deep in the blue state of Illinois, where Democrats have a supermajority in the legislature, where President Obama campaigned for redefining marriage, where GOP turncoat Sen. Mark Kirk tried to pressure GOP State Representatives, where Rahm Emmanuel threatened and Governor Pat Quinn tried to bribe — the people of the state stood up to power and rejected same-sex marriage.

As the legislature came to a close, no vote was scheduled — because bill sponsor Greg Harris and the Speaker of the House agreed only to schedule a vote if gay marriage had enough votes to prevail.

Instead "a broad grassroots coalition of Illinois families of faith of all creeds and colors took on all the Illinois political bosses from Washington to the Governor's Mansion to Chicago's City Hall who tried to pay back the [gay] community for their political support," said Paul Caprio, our friend and spokesman for the Coalition to Protect Children & Marriage.

"Same-Sex Marriage Hits Red Light in Blue Illinois," blazoned (and lots of other news outlets picked up).

Thank you for making this victory possible.

Breitbart noted the key role NOM played in winning this unbelievable victory (of course we are thankful for every person and organization that worked so hard and came together to achieve this victory!):

". . .While pastors held breakfasts, the National Organization for Marriage gave financial support and provided expert testimony in Springfield with Dr. Jennifer Robach Morse on the troubling side of same-sex marriage. Cardinal Francis George wrote and spoke with conviction against the proposal, as did Bishop Thomas John Paprocki of Springfield. Churches rallied and, in spite of the odds, to the surprise of Chicago media and the much better resourced gay gobby, pro-traditional family forces stopped the vote."

The party bosses underestimated the resolve of black pastors, in particular, to whom I personally want to express profound gratitutde for their courageous stand for Biblical values. I learned so much and am so honored to stand with such fine Christian leaders.

In the end, it came down to enormous pressure on twenty black Democratic legislators "I think after President Obama came out as a supporter of [gay] marriage there was a belief that it would be a no-brainer," Representative Christian Mitchell said. "But I don't think folks properly understood the influence and role of the church as it relates to African-American politics."

The Poll You Won't See on the Nightly News

Let me end with another bit of good news. You probably heard, because any message that supports gay marriage gets trumpeted everywhere, of a Pew poll finding that some marriage supporters are getting discouraged and view gay marriage as "inevitable."

Let me tell you, nothing is inevitable to free born men and women except that one day we will all be held accountable by our Creator for whether and how we stood up for His vision of good on this earth.

More Americans than the media wants you to think understand this fact.

A new poll released by the very liberal HuffPo/YouGov finds that a plurality of Americans oppose the Supreme Court overturning DOMA, with just 41 percent saying federal law should redefine marriage, while 45 percent want the Court to uphold the federal law defining marriage as one man, one woman. The same poll found that flat-out, more Americans oppose gay marriage than support in this poll (45 percent to 43 percent).

Twenty-four percent of Democrats polled said the federal government should not redefine, while independents split 42 percent to 44 percent (in favor of protecting marriage). And the vast majority of Republicans said the federal government should not redefine marriage and keep defining it they way it has (73 percent to 19 percent). This is encouraging news that should be shared far and wide.

And keep praying for all those on the frontlines of the fight for marriage and for those standing up against these disturbing abuses of power.

I never forget that, under God, and with His blessing, it is thanks to you that this fight continues, that these victories are possible. It is thanks to the sacrifices of time and treasure you've made to build the National Organization of Marriage, supporter, the last message the Supreme Court will receive before it hands down critical decisions in the fight to protect marriage is that America believes in preserving marriage!

We will not surrender. We will not stand down. We will fight for God's truth about marriage, and for the right of every law-abiding freeborn American citizen to participate equally in our beloved country's democratic process.

Until next week, and the next good fight, I remain.