Stories You Won't Hear Anywhere Else


Dear Marriage Supporter,

We've all heard over the years that the movement toward universal acceptance of same-sex 'marriage' is inevitable.

You hear on the media that attitudes are shifting toward accepting marriage redefinition as one poll after another is trotted out to prove the point they so desperately want to make.

But as we at NOM have demonstrated in our brief to the Supreme Court in the Obergfell v Hodges case, so much of the polling that "proves" that "everyone" is clamoring for same-sex 'marriage' is subject to well-documented biases and techniques designed to generate a pre-determined response. Additionally, factors such as "social desirability bias" are real issues when polling on sensitive subjects like marriage.

In that regard, an important new study was released this week by Pew Research Center that documents the extent to which the polling on gay issues could be off.

Pew found that there was a difference of 14 points on the issue of whether gays and lesbians experience "a lot of discrimination" depending on whether people were surveyed by an interviewer on the phone or whether they completed a survey on the web. In the case of giving an answer to a phone interviewer, 62% said that gays and lesbian face a lot of discrimination, but only 48% of people surveyed on the web say this. In fact, 52% of web respondents said gays do NOT receive a lot of discrimination.

The reason for this disparity, no doubt, is the "social desirability bias" factor that NOM pointed out to the Supreme Court: survey respondents are apt to give a phone interviewer the "politically correct" answer rather than risk being seen unfavorably by the interviewer. It's a key reason why polling on state marriage fights have typically understated support for traditional marriage by approximately 7 points compared to the actual outcome of the elections.

Today I want to also share some stories from people who are receiving little voice in the debate... but are courageously stepping forward to speak out and make their voices heard to the Supreme Court. In all, six children of same-sex couples filed briefs before the Supreme Court to ensure that the Court heard their story.

Heather and Katy Didn't Want Two Mommies

Heather Barwick and Katy Faust submitted a powerful amicus curiae brief to the Supreme Court outlining their story and why they support traditional marriage.

Heather Barwick was raised by a lesbian couple. She loves her two moms and respects the job they did in raising her. She was a strong advocate for gay rights and proponent of redefining marriage for years.

But recently, she has reversed her position and come to the conclusion that both mothers and fathers matter for children.

Moreover, she is speaking out on behalf of the many children she knows who are hurt by the fact that their voice and ability to be heard is being actively suppressed by the lobbying machine working to redefine marriage.

She asks the simple but heartfelt question... why can't gay people's kids be honest? And she sadly concludes:

"...Children of same-sex parents haven't been given the same voice [as kids of divorce or adoptive children]. It's not just me. There are so many of us. Many of us are too scared to speak up and tell you about our hurt and pain, because for whatever reason it feels like you're not listening. That you don't want to hear. If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater."

Katy Faust was likewise raised by a lesbian couple. She similarly enjoys a close, loving relationship with her mother.

And she similarly understands the profound truth that all children, whenever and wherever possible, need both a mother and a father.

And — similarly — she has been marginalized and harassed for speaking out:

"Despite having diverse stories and voices, the six of us who filed amicus briefs with the Supreme Court have two things in common: First, we agree that it is in the best interest of children to promote marriage between one man and one woman. Second, we have all been subjected to some measure of intimidation for sharing our stories.

We've faced threats to our jobs, harassment of family and friends, and abusive language from those who espouse openness and tolerance. In our current political climate, it's easy to understand why children with gay parents might not feel comfortable voicing misgivings about their upbringings."

Kudos to both of these brave women for standing up for marriage! It's sad that such loving, well-spoken women are subject to such intense campaigns to marginalize them.

But for those of us who have been fighting this fight for so long, it comes as no surprise. The forces aligned to redefine marriage will brook no opposition and allow no free discussion on the issue. Their tactics have played out time and time again: demonize and marginalize those who disagree with the new same-sex 'marriage' orthodoxy.

Just look at the latest example to crop up: a witch-hunt taking place over some professors daring to sign on to an amicus curiae brief to the Supreme Court defending traditional marriage.

Others Who Are Speaking Out

And it's not just children of same-sex couples who are speaking out... members of the homosexual community are starting to raise their voice as well.

The author of the article is a gay man who wants nothing more in the world than to be a father. But he can't bring himself to celebrate same-sex marriage.

Why? Because, "deep down, I know that every American, gay or straight, has suffered a great loss because of this." He continues:

"I'm not alone in thinking this. The big secret in the LGBT community is that there are a significant number of gays and lesbians who oppose same-sex marriage, and an even larger number who are ambivalent. You don't hear us speak out because gay rights activists (most of whom are straight) have a history of viciously stamping out any trace of individualism within the gay community. I asked to publish this article under a pseudonym, not because I fear harassment from Christian conservatives, but because I know this article will make me a target of the Gaystapo."

How sad is it that a gay man cannot even voice his opinion to his peers for fear of retaliation?

One Week To Go In The Emerald Isle

One week from today, on May 22nd, the people of Ireland will vote on a national referendum that would redefine marriage in their Constitution.

After years of talking about the "fundamental right" of marriage not being subject to votes, advocates have organized and are going to the ballot box in an attempt to get what they want.

As you can imagine, the No (i.e. pro-marriage) campaign is receiving significant abuse and needs your help.

Here are three things you can do to help our friends in Ireland:

  1. Visit their campaign site and support them at
  2. Visit their Youtube page and like their videos.
  3. Share this mail with your friends and encourage them to follow your example!

Remember — increasingly the battle to preserve marriage is becoming a global one. While the Obama administration aggressively ties American foreign policy to advancing the gay agenda worldwide, most countries in the world strongly are opposed to redefining marriage.

If traditional marriage supporters can manage to pull off a victory in Ireland, it will be a tremendous boost to the cause of marriage worldwide. Please do what you can to bring awareness to their efforts.


Brian S Brown

PS: If you have the means to do so, please renew your commitment to marriage and to NOM by renewing your membership with a generous donation today. The next few months will be pivotal and we have just thrown everything we had into the fight — between the March for Marriage, the Supreme Court fight and our tireless efforts to communicate the truth of marriage through the media — our coffers are empty. And we have a big job ahead of us to ensure that your voice and your values are continually heard as the justices of the Supreme Court deliberate their ruling. They must be told unequivocally that any decision purporting to redefine marriage will be seen as judicial activism and be considered illegitimate. Thank you for your support.

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