I am reminded each day I park my car that the pressure will never subside. A billboard from a storage company cries out to couples tying the knot: "IF YOU DON'T LIKE GAY MARRIAGE, DON'T GET GAY MARRIED."
It's not the political message that's killing me. It's the marital call to arms.
... Mafe called me while I was on a reporting trip for CNN to tell me the New York State Legislature had voted to allow gays to marry. I reminded her she has been saying she wouldn't marry me for the last 10 years.
"That's not the point," she said. "It's big news."
... One lesbian couple asked if we wanted to marry at City Hall with a big group of couples. Uh, nope. We couldn't go more than a day without someone asking: "When's the wedding?"
... Neither of us had romantic notions of an anticlimactic public ceremony with two white dresses and thousands of dollars of finger food and gifts. We didn't think our friends would care. But boy did they. Our Facebook pages lit up.