MARRIAGE ALERT: Tremendous Victory from New Jersey!


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Dear Friends of Marriage,

Two days ago, NOM asked its friends and supporters to do whatever was in their power to help stop same-sex marriage in New Jersey. For some of you, that was taking time off work to go to the State House in Trenton. For others, it was making phone calls or sending emails to your state senators.

And for all of us, it was to pray, and contact our friends in New Jersey.

When we mobilized our network of supporters like you, I never guessed how dramatically things would play out in just 24 hours!

Yesterday, faced with the prospects of defeat in the Senate, bill sponsors Loretta Weinberg and Ray Lesniak petitioned Senate President Richard Codey to postpone the vote. It has now been postponed indefinitely!

Of course, Loretta Weinberg refuses to admit her defeat, but the evidence is indisputable. Four Democrat senators have now publicly stated their opposition to same-sex marriage, with just one Republican defector -- virtually assuring the bill's demise.

And our internal vote count suggests it could have been a landslide -- just like we saw in New York last week.

Same-sex marriage advocates couldn't stomach another overwhelming and very public defeat. So rather than bring the bill to a vote, with little or no chance for victory and significant risk of being humiliated, they have put the vote off indefinitely.

The bill now goes to a House Committee, where a hearing is yet to be scheduled, and it is far from certain that the bill will be advanced by the 6-member committee. It looks as though the gay marriage lobby in New Jersey may just run out the clock on Governor Corzine's term -- conceding quietly rather than with a headline-grabbing Senate vote count.

We don't know yet how things will play out in New Jersey over the next 5 weeks. But this we do know:

Gay marriage advocates used their political muscle to insist on a vote in New Jersey on gay marriage on Thursday, and they called it off for one reason alone: they knew they were going to lose. The overwhelming outpouring of phone calls and letters from regular voters was opposed to gay marriage in New Jersey, as it was in New York.

The tide has turned. The mantle of inevitability claimed by gay marriage activists is being shown for the charade it always has been.

As we near the end of 2009, please consider a generous gift to NOM to help cement these victories for marriage. Click here to make a secure online donation that will help rebuild our emergency fund and organize the grassroots army that will protect marriage at both the state and federal level in 2010.

With your help, I firmly believe that 2010 will be the year in which the gay marriage movement cedes momentum back to the defenders of right and decency in our society. Shocked by consecutive defeats deep in blue state territory, gay marriage activists must now regroup and rethink their strategy. Click here to help keep the pressure on the gay marriage lobby with your gift of $35, $50, or even $500 or more today!

Meanwhile, our movement is growing stronger by the day. From a small startup just two years ago, NOM has grown to a powerful national organization, spending nearly $8 million in 2009 to protect marriage and religious liberty all across the nation, including $3 million spent on just these past three victories alone -- $1.8 million in Maine, and $600,000 each in New York and New Jersey.

And the results have been unmistakable. When we started the year, gay marriage advocates had a decade's worth of organizational and lobbying experience in New England states that our side simply couldn't match. Thanks to your help, that will never be the case again. Never again will gay marriage advocates be able to push their agenda through simply on the basis of organizational superiority.

In 2010, we will likely see an effort to repeal the federal Defense of Marriage Act. We have now proven at the state level that your phone calls and emails, especially when they number in the tens of thousands, are a powerful voice that legislators can't ignore. Next year, we need to take that state model and expand it nationally, identifying thousands of pro-marriage activists in every congressional district across the country. We want each of the 435 members of Congress to know that their own constituents are ready and waiting, even on a moment's notice, to stand up and speak out for marriage -- and that if they mess with marriage, they do so at their own electoral peril.

But in order to make this national grassroots army for marriage a reality, we urgently need your help today. No effort of this magnitude to protect marriage has ever been undertaken before. Reaching the two million Americans needed to save DOMA will require direct mail campaigns, TV and radio ads, an internet ad campaign, automated phone calls, and of course word of mouth, as you tell your friends about this vital effort to protect marriage.

We've leveraged everything we had in order to win in Maine, New York and New Jersey this fall. And it appears we're on the verge of a most amazing trifecta -- dramatic wins in all three states! But our emergency fund has been emptied.

We urgently need your help to make sure we have the resources as we enter 2010 to meet the gay marriage agenda all across the nation. I know times are tight for many right now, but if you have the means, please consider your most generous gift of $35, $50, or even $500 or more today.

And even if you're not in a position to give right now, you can help by forwarding this message to five friends who need to join our grassroots army to protect marriage! Have them visit to join us today!

You have stood with us so faithfully in the past. We need your help right now!

P.S.: I firmly believe that the dramatic victories we've seen in the past 6 weeks are just the beginning. Next year, I'm looking forward to taking the battle to our opponents, as we begin working to repeal the same-sex marriage regimes being forced on the people of Iowa, New Hampshire and elsewhere. Your gift today will help turn our bold and aggressive goals into strategic and far-reaching victories!

P.P.S.: If you haven't yet been to, please take a minute right now to sign the petition and help send a strong message to Congress: Don't Mess with DOMA!

©2009 National Organization for Marriage.


  1. Chairm
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 9:29 am | Permalink

    The problem that all elected representatives have, the problem that is foremost on their list to solve, is re-election.

    Democrats and Republicans who would stand against marriage are more vulnerable during the primaries. But even during general elections, as NOM has shown, marriage defenders can become a decisive factor in who wins and who loses. And, after elections, the problem of re-election does ot go away as NOM has demonstrated in NY and NJ.

    The strategy is clear:

    "We want each of the 435 members of Congress to know that their own constituents are ready and waiting, even on a moment’s notice, to stand up and speak out for marriage — and that if they mess with marriage, they do so at their own electoral peril."

    Thanks to NOM and to you, Brian, and to the marriage defenders who act with the courage of their convictions.

    * * *

    The new year will be a good year for marriage.

    Brian said: "I firmly believe that the dramatic victories we’ve seen in the past 6 weeks are just the beginning. Next year, I’m looking forward to taking the battle to our opponents, as we begin working to repeal the same-sex marriage regimes being forced on the people of Iowa, New Hampshire and elsewhere."

  2. john
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 11:24 am | Permalink

    Great news from New Jersey!

    Lately, the SSM crowd has been claiming that it is both inappropriate and impossible to "cure" homosexuality. That seems very curious to me, as militant feminist lesbians attempt to "cure" heterosexuality in women and girls all over the nation, every day, and they succeed far too often. Then women, sometimes in their 40s or 50s, reveal that they have realized that they have been lesbians all along. Yea, that makes a lot of sense.

    If one steps back and looks at the SSM movement in the US from afar, as aliens from another planet might, it looks like utter madness. How could members of a species be trying to promote same-sex relationships that will not lead to the creation of natural families and a harmonious society, but that will instead lead to more distrust, hostility, misunderstanding, division, disharmony, bitterness, and conflict between the sexes. We got to this point the way people usually get into difficult predicaments -- small step by small step. And we will have to extricate ourselves small step by small step, and the victory in New Jersey, like the recent victories in New York and Maine, is another one of those small steps.

    Keep up the great work NOM!

  3. Kevin
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 1:15 pm | Permalink

    I was just reading about Californians trying to put a referendum on the ballot to ban divorce in their state, as an effective way to preserve traditional marriage, which according to marriage vows and the Bible, is supposed to last a lifetime. I haven't been able to find where NOM is supporting the effort and raising funds for commercials supporting the banning of divorce. Could someone point me to the links on the website for NOM's policy position on divorce? Thanks.

  4. Chairm
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 2:32 pm | Permalink

    Marriage is winning in New Jersey, so the SSMer decides to play the joker card.

  5. Adam
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 2:47 pm | Permalink

    It is interesting why they chose initially to start in the Senate? I know now a bill can originate any either house or senate. But I am curious as to why they chose senate first? Those political savvy enough please respond. What advantage did they get? Why did they back out and decide the assembly would be the better way, if they didn't try it first initially? Any ideas?

  6. Chairm
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 9:27 pm | Permalink

    Adam, I think they were confident that they could get the bill passed by both Senate and Assembley but they also had a short timeframe. They assessed that the Senate would be slightly more difficult than the Assembley. To get it through the Senate they might have had to do lots of arm-twisting and deal-making and that can take time. Also, the Senate might have passed it with changes. So instead of doing the easy part first, they planned on doing the Senate, get it out of the way, then sprint to the finish line with the more pliable Assembley.

    Or something like that. However, I think they'd have met some tough resistance in the Assembley by reps who were leary of going out on a limb on SSM if the Senate was not in the bag before the Assembly voted. Horse bargaining and arm-twisting in the Assembley would go a lot more swiftly if the Senate was onside.

    But given NOM's successful mobilizaton of marriage defenders, I don't think the SSMers were going to get it through either chamber as swiftly as the SSMers had expected -- if at all. They lost tactically and strategically, anyway.

    My two cents.

  7. Posted December 14, 2009 at 12:50 am | Permalink

    This is a complete lie! I can't believe you published this!

    I have no opinion on the matter, but they postponed the vote so the assembly could vote on it. The senate IS voting on the bill the second week of January!

    This is a complete lie! SHAME, SHAME!

    THOU SHALT NOT BEAR FALSE WITNESS. Even if it protects marriage. SHAME!

  8. Amy
    Posted December 14, 2009 at 1:30 pm | Permalink

    CJR, you may not like it, but the truth is that the Senate did not have the votes. I'd like to see the evidence to the contrary if you have it. Think about it, if they had the votes, they'd have pushed it through. No one looking at the vote count can honestly say that SSM was going to make it through. The people of New Jersey simply don't want it. Hallelujah!

  9. Chairm
    Posted December 14, 2009 at 2:17 pm | Permalink

    CJR, if there has been another attempt to schedule a new attempt to put the bill to a vote in the Senate, that does not make the content of the blogpost a "lie".

    The original timeframe was for the Senate to go first, not second. That changed. You can't say that is a lie, right?

    The "postponement", in basic political terms, depends on the Assembly doing what the SSMers could not do in the Senate this past attempt.

    That's the truth.

  10. Chairm
    Posted December 20, 2009 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

    The SSMer will cite majority opinion when it favors SSM but will denounced majority opinion when it disfavors SSM.

    The SSMer will deride majority opinion expressed in direct votes of hundreds of thousands or millions, but will fall all over himself to praise popular opinion as per results of a survey of a sample of a few hundred people.

    The SSM campaign is big on rhetoric and short of reason, unfortunately, and so its shifting standards of argumentation are unabashedly self-serving.

  11. Kevin
    Posted December 20, 2009 at 4:04 pm | Permalink

    I refuted a previous comment Chairm. And I specifically noted that it is inappropriate to vote on a minority group’s civil rights, didn’t I? It doesn’t matter what a majority wants it if violates the country’s constitution.

  12. Posted December 21, 2009 at 1:08 am | Permalink

    Working with Eugene Delgado, my company placed over 4000 calls on legislators voice mail this week. Using our automated calling system, we called 130,000 voters from New Jersey asking them to call there legislator and demand that they vote no. This along with your efforts is defeating this legislation. Congratulations.