A terribly sad and maddening story out of Kansas today reveals just how absurdly astray the fruits of the sexual revolution have taken us with respect to understanding the nature of marriage and family.
The story involves a man named William Marotta, and reads like a script of a satire but is all too sadly real.
Here is the basic timeline of the situation, according to the coverage from CNN:
- In 2009, a lesbian couple from Topeka, Kansas posted an ad on Craiglist(!) seeking a sperm donor.
- Marotta (who is married!) responded and "donated [his] genetic material" to the women free of charge.
- The couple then performed an artificial insemination procedure at home(!) and one of the women conceived and gave birth to a baby girl.
- Now - with the child only 4 years old - the couple have separated and one of the women has had to quit work citing medical reasons.
- The state, therefore, is stepping in and ordering Marotta to pay child support for the four-year old girl.
- Marotta is protesting this order in court, saying of the little girl, "I'm not her parent."
Reading the story, it is particularly horrifying that the child's interests and roles aren't given primary attention, or really any attention at all. Her rights, her needs, her future are all merely the "frame" of the story, relegated to being treated as nothing more than a source of inconvenience in the lives of these three adults.
The relevance of this story to the issue of same-sex 'marriage' is obvious: The drive to redefine marriage is born of a culture which makes marriage and parenting about the desires of adults rather than the rights and welfare of children. This story gives a snapshot of that culture.
For these three adults, having a child wasn't the serious and heavily weighed decision of commitment that it should be. Marotta himself says he responded to the Craigslist ad (and let's pause momentarily again over that detail) because he was "intrigued" - fathering a daughter was a lark for him. And as for the couple who so quickly separated... one can only wonder whether they were truly prepared for the gravity of parenthood, when part of the process involved soliciting sperm from a random stranger met on the internet!
This is why marriage matters: Marriage encapsulates a set of norms and expectations which civilize men, protect women, and serve the needs of children. Abandon these norms, and "parenting" becomes a soap-opera story about adults' goals and achievements, where children are merely part of the supporting cast.