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NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Here I am on C-Span's prestigious Washington Journal, talking about the March 26 March for Marriage, taking our case to the very steps of the Supreme Court!

On the 26th, as we are marching outside the Court, demanding justice for marriage and for democracy, inside the Justices of our highest court will hear jousting from lawyers on both sides.

Myriad Defenses for Marriage at the Court

Ryan Anderson over at the Heritage Foundation has done a good job highlighting and providing links to the more than 50 amicus briefs for marriage now before the Court.

A sampling from Ryan's roundup:

Former U.S. Attorney General Ed Meese argues that same-sex and opposite-sex relationships are not similarly situated:

Given the near-universal view, across different societies and different times, that a principal, if not the principal, purpose of marriage is the channeling of the unique procreative abilities of opposite-sex relationships into a societally beneficial institution, it is clear that same-sex and opposite-sex couples are not similarly situated with respect to that fundamental purpose.

A group of international jurists and academics points out that "same-sex marriage is not required by international human rights norms."

The Attorneys General for 20 states filed a joint brief defending the rational basis of their states' marriage laws.

A group of historians and other professors explain: "While the procedures and incidents of marriage have varied over time and across cultures, its primary form and legal meaning have remained remarkably constant. ... Marriage as an opposite-sex institution is a universal phenomenon."

A team of social science professors (including Mark Regnerus, the researcher behind the now-famous New Family Structures Study) present the compelling scientific data on family structure and child wellbeing.

Indeed, the only studies that were based on large, random, representative samples tended to reveal ... significant differences in the outcomes of children raised by parents in a same-sex relationship and those raised by a married biological mother and father. What is clear is that much more study must be done on these questions. But there is no dispute that a biological mother and father provide, on average, an effective and proven environment for raising children. And it is reasonable to conclude that a mother and father function as a complementary parenting unit and that each tends to contribute something unique and beneficial to child development.

Two other briefs were filed by gay or same-sex attracted Americans, asking the Court to uphold Prop 8, while The Becket Fund for Religious Liberty argues that when courts create rights to same-sex marriage they create new hazards for religious liberty.

Our own brief from the National Organization for Marriage in the Proposition 8 case was filed by our Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance (and we filed a separate brief in the DOMA case as well!). The Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance brief urges the court not to contribute to a climate of intimidation by falsely and wrongly labeling good people irrational, bigots, or worse:

Despite the chilling effect of political reprisals and other acts of hostility, many people in this country continue to demonstrate great civic courage in endeavoring to preserve marriage as a vital social institution that promotes the public interest in strengthening the unique relationship between mothers, fathers, and children. This perseverance, often in the face of great hostility, testifies to their good will and honest belief that society benefits from strengthening marriage rather than redefining it in a way that would divorce it from its roots in human biology and the needs of children. Those views are worthy of reflection and the people who hold them are worthy of respect.

.... [T]he Court should reject any argument made in this case that support for marriage as one man and one woman is irrational, bigoted, or worse.

Redefining Marriage 12 Votes Short in Illinois

In Illinois, they expected gay marriage to pass this week. Instead, Illinois House Speaker Michael Madigan had to go the press and confess the bill is "12 votes short of passage," which the Chicago Tribune described as "a signal that same-sex marriage could face a tough road to approval this spring."

This is nothing short of miraculous, given Chicago Mayor Rahm Emmanual's deep connections to the White House. But Black pastors in Chicago are speaking up for God's word and demanding that politicians who represent them respect their voices and values.

One pastor spoke at a news conference of a new coalition of Black Illinois pastors.

His words (starting around the 5:00 mark) were ringing:

As a coalition, we say enough is enough. We say marriage is between a man and a woman and we also say it is that it is not the government's responsibility, it is not the state's responsibility and it is not the mayor's responsibility to try and redefine what marriage really is....

We want to make sure we send a message to our elected officials, that as a collective community, if you want to shove this legislation down our throats as your constituents, then we will not allow you to speak in our churches, you will not be invited to our churches [...] when you are running for office, because we as a community are incensed that you would allow the dollars from special interests groups to sway your opinion and go against the very core of our families.

Notably, he responded squarely to a criticism people often make: "People always say the problems in the African American community is their families... their husbands and fathers are not there."

In answer, he said: "Then help us first get our first work right. Help us first with all your resources and the billions being spent in order to promote the same-sex marriage agenda and use it to help us correct our communities. Take that money and help us to correct our social ill. But don't take money from those trying to categorically undo the Bible and then shove it down our throats as a civil rights violation, because it is not."

The conclusion is ringing:

So we want for our elected officials going from the top of this nation all the way down to our local legislative bodies to realize that we do have a backbone, we do have a voice, we do have an opinion and we do have a God. We will serve that God until the day we die, we will preserve the sanctity of marriage and we will also preserve the truths of His word until the day that we die."

God bless him and his fellow men of the cloth for their courage. These are strong Democrats standing up to the Chicago machine politics, on behalf of God's truth about marriage.

Another Example of What the Reality of Marriage Redefinition Looks Like

The voices of some young dissenters are beginning to creep into the public debate; sometimes you have to read them sideways.

Janis Hetherington was one of the first British lesbian mothers to be artificially inseminated. You can read her story and see her photo here.

According to The Independent, "[Janis' story] is a story of courage, custody battles—and refusal to conform."

But real life is messier than that. After giving birth to a boy named Nick, Ms. Hetherington lost her partner to an early death, and then decided to battle her partner's family for custody of Lisa, her partner's daughter from a previous relationship.

The reporter is not very interested in how that felt for the children, but she does note that Lisa is not speaking to Janis or to the other woman (named Barbara) who helped raise her from the age of 5 or 6.

Nick, Janis's son, is writing a movie based on his mom's life which started out when she was 15 with a lesbian relationship with a 25 year old woman (what we would now call pedophilia); included time spent in a brothel; until finally Janis 'reincarnated' herself to the point that the reporter (not me) says, "she resembles a country gent about to go hunting."

Nick says about his life with his mom and her partner from the age of 2: "It doesn't matter what sort of environment you grow up in, straight, bi- or transgender, but that family has to be strong and if it's not strong it will be sh*** and, certainly growing up, ours was not strong."

Despite those early hurdles, Nick says they are now close. "I now have that unity [with my mother] and my sister has found that unity with her own family."

Not every family is perfect. Even children blessed with a married mom and dad experience hardship and heartache. Forgiveness is the heart of family life. But oh what a tangled web we weave when we pretend the ideal does not exist or is not important!

Some New Pro-Marriage Voices on the Scene

Here is an 11-year-old(!), Gracie Evans, testifying before the Minnesota state legislature against same sex marriage. She had a question for the legislators: "I want to ask you this question: which parent do I not need: my Mom or my Dad?" [emphasis added].

She asks the question twice and looks around the room in vain for an answer. Out of the mouths of babes, my friends, out of the mouths of babes!

For those of us who are Catholic, and for many others as well, this week was exciting for another reason. For the first time in modern history a non-European will sit in St. Peter's chair as bishop of Rome and head of the Catholic Church.

Many of you are writing to ask me if the new Pope had expressed any views on marriage. The answer is yes: as Cardinal Archbishop of Buenos Aires, he said this about treating same-sex unions as marriages on June 22, 2010:

I write this letter to each one of you in the four Monasteries of Buenos Aires.... The identity of the family, and its survival, are in jeopardy here: father, mother, and children. The life of so many children who will be discriminated beforehand due to the lack of human maturity that God willed them to have with a father and a mother is in jeopardy. A clear rejection of the law of God, engraved in our hearts, is in jeopardy.

He ends by urging those in the monasteries, "Let us recall what God himself told his people in a time of great anguish: 'this war is not yours, but God's', that [these words] may succour, defend, and accompany us in this war...."

What can I say to that but, Amen!

God bless you and thank you. The fights thicken, and it is your courage, your prayers, and your contributions in a hundred thousand ways that keep me going.

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  1. Will Fisher
    Posted March 16, 2013 at 7:13 am | Permalink

    Question for Brian et al.,
    Recently, another American Indian Tribe legalized SSM in tribal law (The Traverse Bay Band of Ottawa Indians in Michigan). Does NOM have a position on SSM by Indian tribes in tribal law? If so what is it? Thanks.

  2. Will Fisher
    Posted March 16, 2013 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

    Also, I noticed that you posted some excerpts from CPAC. Could you post some highlights from NOM's presentation? Maybe also some reactions to the "Rainbow on the Right"? A conservative friend of mine attended, and said it was very well attended and very informative. Thanks.

  3. John B.
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 10:22 am | Permalink

    So you're going to use the example of Janis Hetherington to defame or smear all gay couples and their families? Is that really the road you want to go down? If we start judging all families by the oddity or dysfunction of the most extreme examples, by their unconventionality or the poor decisions they sometimes make, or the unhappiness and alienation of the children they produce, your side isn't exactly going to come out smelling like roses. Seriously, you want to go there? Janis Hetherington's story will pale in comparison.

  4. Randy E King
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 10:51 am | Permalink

    Gay: promiscuous (adj.)

    Sexual depravity does turn you into a species of man unto yourself. Might as well be declaring Perverts to be Goony-ga-ga couples.

  5. John B.
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 11:42 am | Permalink

    BTW in case it wasn't obvious, Ms. Hetherington is not married to her current partner, and was never married to her deceased partner (hence the legal problems mentioned in the article). So this proves NOM's point... how?

  6. Posted March 17, 2013 at 11:44 am | Permalink

    Hey John B., eat your own words. Your comment sounds exactly like how SSm advocates generally argue:

    "If we start judging all families by the oddity or dysfunction of the most extreme examples, by their unconventionality or the poor decisions they sometimes make, or the unhappiness and alienation of the children they produce, your side isn't exactly going to come out smelling like roses. Seriously, you want to go there?"

    You are the ones going 'there' / / /

  7. Posted March 17, 2013 at 2:09 pm | Permalink

    Here is an 11-year-old(!), Gracie Evans, testifying before the Minnesota state legislature against same sex marriage. She had a question for the legislators: "I want to ask you this question: which parent do I not need: my Mom or my Dad?" [emphasis added].
    The BEST rhetorical question. And so true. And the same question can be applied to the couple level - homosexuals are so deformed by their inability to related to the opposite sex. The narcissism in homosexuality is so sickening, there is no complementarity, no wonder of two joining into one. Heterosexuality is the most beautiful thing ever. Only when homosexuals try to destroy it do we realize how precious it is.

    But the problem isn't restricted to homosexuals. There are more and more bisexual men and women in society who would cheat on their (heterosexual) spouses without thinking twice. That's a lot of bisexuality is about. Getting some perverted kick behind your spouse's back. I know several dedicated husbands who have no clue they are married to pigs of women - who all go to church.

    There is nothing about these people that make them a "minority" of any kind. The concept of sexual minority is largely a fraud. These people are privileged, unethical, and disgusting. They destroy everything that is wholesome in society about relationships.

  8. Posted March 17, 2013 at 2:15 pm | Permalink

    Janis looks like a grotesque reverse drag queen in that picture. What a terrible thing to have a mother who has so many problems being a woman - on so many levels. But, of course, she insists that she has no psychological problems at all - it's all liberals are good for: being in denial about their mountain of emotional and psychological problems related to gender, sexuality, and relationships.

    Suffer their children, they don't care. The little troglodytes must beat their chests and say they are normal, end of story.

    A person without self-awareness is a sorry spectacle. What we need to teach children in school is exactly the opposite: you have psychological problems with heterosexuality, you need to solve them. That's what being an adult is all about.

  9. Will Fisher
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 3:52 pm | Permalink

    Alessandra says, "a person without self-awareness is a sorry spectacle."

  10. Randy E King
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 7:34 pm | Permalink

    In reading through 31 of the 58 Amicus Briefs in support of tradition marriage I couldn't help but notice that noted briefs were signed by over a hundred separate individuals and or groups - representing millions of constituents.

    Yet; still not a word of this in the "free" press.

    Very telling.

  11. Zack
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 8:22 pm | Permalink


    When the narrative doesn't fit their world view, it is dismissed. This is why they won't talk about people like Artur Davis defecting to the GOP or Tim Scott becoming the only black senator in congress. They certainly won't tell you about the myriad of other minority politicians and groups who support conservative causes either.

    If they don't see themselves as victims, then they aren't real minorities. That's how the media has set the narrative.

  12. Ash
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 10:25 pm | Permalink


    "Yet; still not a word of this in the 'free' press."

    The press doesn't want to encourage anyone to read those briefs, lest the weakness of pro-ssm arguments are exposed.

  13. Robert
    Posted March 17, 2013 at 11:10 pm | Permalink

    I'm just glad the Westboro Baptist Church is in the same group as NOM. That will really persuade the Supreme Court: two hate groups want DOMA and Prop 8 to stay. Very telling!

  14. Will Fisher
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 7:40 am | Permalink

    Ash, yet the pro-SSM site posted all of them on Scribd for everybody to read and scrutinize.

  15. chris from CO
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 8:45 am | Permalink

    Thank you Will for pointing that out its true can go on formally and read all the briefs still today. From both sides. It's alot of reading but worth the time. Take a look at them folks.

  16. CRSmith
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 8:50 am | Permalink

    Thank you for the work that do stopping gay marriage. One day we will go back to the time when DECENT people kept these shamefull things private. The decision of the Supreme Court that will remove gay marriage from this county once and for all cannot come soon enough. My prayers are with you.

  17. Ash
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 10:42 am | Permalink

    @Will & Chris, good for equalityontrial. I just finished reading a brief from Maggie's iMAPP and a few professors, arguing why the court has--and should--always be skeptical of "expert opinion," particularly from the social sciences. All of the pro-marriage briefs I've read so far have been great.

    In Marriage March news, it appears that Scythian's facebook page is shut down. They had a nice status noting that they are divided on the issue of marriage, just like the country, but will remain intact as a group, and respects each other's opinions. The three pro-marriage band members would sing at the March as "Ultramontane." Their facebook status garnered over 200 "likes" but SSMers were livid. I wonder if they reported the daylights out of Scythian's page and thus led to its shutdown.

  18. Publius
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 11:24 am | Permalink

    Re comment nr. 1.

    I am libertarian enough to say that I have no objections to what the tribes decide. The question is should the federal government force SSM on all the tribes.

  19. Publius
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 11:29 am | Permalink

    Comments 3 and 13 are at war with one another. Apparently is it wrong for NOM to site extreme examples, but right for opponents of NOM to site extreme examples.

    Of course, extremes do exist and it is up to the courts to decide if there can be constitutional limits to extreme actions.

  20. Robert
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 12:39 pm | Permalink

    Publius, no one is going to force you to marry someone of the same sex. I promise!

  21. bman
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 1:03 pm | Permalink

    Robert->Publius, no one is going to force you to marry someone of the same sex. I promise!

    By that logic,any form of marriage can be legalized since no one is going to force Publius to practice them.

  22. bman
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 1:26 pm | Permalink

    Chris-> all the briefs still today. From both sides.

    Briefs for both sides are available at SCOTUS via their blog page:

  23. Publius
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 2:05 pm | Permalink

    re 20


    Thank you for your comments. As always, you are civil, logical, and insightful.


    The question is about de-gendering family law, and family law affects all of society, often in ways that are hard to foresee. It took a generation or more for the full effect of no fault divorce to be felt by the whole of society.

    Again, do you think Judge Walker's ruling that the state cannot allow gender in the definition of marriage should be forced on all Indian tribes?

  24. bman
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 3:40 pm | Permalink

    Robert->I'm just glad the Westboro Baptist Church is in the same group as NOM. That will really persuade the Supreme Court: two hate groups want DOMA and Prop 8 to stay. Very telling!

    Readers should presume you made a false accusation against NOM since no convincing proof was offered.

  25. Paul Mc
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 4:23 pm | Permalink

    bman: do you really need proof that both NOM and WBC want Prop8 and DOMA to stand? It's in their briefs.

  26. Richard
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 6:05 pm | Permalink

    Chairm wants me to respond to the blog posts. Okay, here goes. The Battle for Marriage is over in ME, NH, Vt, MA, Ct, NY, MD, D.C., IA and WA. Everyone was a winner.

  27. bman
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 6:25 pm | Permalink

    Paul Mc->bman: do you really need proof that both NOM and WBC want Prop8 and DOMA to stand? It's in their briefs

    Rather, do you really think I was referring to that?

    The mere fact WBC agrees with NOM on marriage would not make NOM a hate group, or anyone else for that matter.

    I am saying readers should presume Robert's hate group accusation is a false accusation unless he can provide convincing proof.

  28. Randy E King
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 7:30 pm | Permalink

    Does the fact that NAMBLA supports marriage corruption automatically make all marriage corruption supporters pedophiles?

    Wait...bad example...

  29. Richard
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 7:39 pm | Permalink

    Randy and bman. I reject everything NAMBLA stands for and believes. What part(s) of Westboro Baptist Church do each of you reject?

  30. Son of Adam
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 7:48 pm | Permalink

    We reject the WBC's contention to hate the sinner AND the sin. True marriage supporters love the sinner, but not the sin.

  31. Son of Adam
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 7:49 pm | Permalink

    "The Battle for Marriage is over in ME, NH, Vt, MA, Ct, NY, MD, D.C., IA and WA. Everyone was a winner."

    Not polyamorous groups or incestuous couples. They're still considered second to gay supremacist ideology.

  32. Son of Adam
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 7:59 pm | Permalink

    And the battle for REAL marriage has been won in

    •North Carolina
    •North Dakota
    •South Carolina
    •South Dakota

  33. Chris
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 8:00 pm | Permalink

    What is NOM's response to the recent revelations that Regnerus intended to influence the Supreme Court with his study? Also, what is NOM's response to the funders of the study were deeply involved with the study throughout?

  34. Richard
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 9:00 pm | Permalink

    Let's see, SoA, take Vermont off your list and while you are at it, Colorado, Illinois, California, Rhode Island (civil unions...step one). And then just watch...the dominoes are toppling... Minnesota, Oregon, Michigan and the beat goes on.

  35. Randy E King
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 9:05 pm | Permalink


    That goose is not cooked yet. Did you learn your prognosticating skills in NAMBLA school?

  36. Son of Adam
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 10:00 pm | Permalink

    Sorry, Richard. With such a large number of states who still support REAL marriage, its easy to make a mistake.

    And people prognosticated that Communism would take over the world as more and more countries were conquered by it. How did that turn out? The same can be said about abortion too.

    Consider those things before you play Nostradamus.

  37. Forrest
    Posted March 18, 2013 at 10:57 pm | Permalink

    Westboro Church is a great example of the Democratic Party since it was funded and founded by lifelong liberals. It seems that Al Gore, CLinton, and Phelps are all lifelong buds.
    Fred Phelps, the head of the "church," actually has a long history of support for Democrats. He has run as a Democrat for governor of Kansas three tiumes, mayor of Topeka twice, and for the U.S. Senator once.

    Al Gore was apparently the family's favorite Democrat. Phelps himself was a Gore delegate when he ran for president in 1988. The Phelpses even held a fundraiser for Gore in their Topeka, Kansas home. Their support paid off. The Phelps family was invited to the Clinton/Gore inaugurations in 1993 and 1997.

  38. Son of Adam
    Posted March 19, 2013 at 3:00 am | Permalink

    The democratic party were on the wrong side of history when they supported slavery and racial segregation, both of which were popular in their time, and they are on the wrong side of history now.

  39. Son of Adam
    Posted March 19, 2013 at 3:02 am | Permalink

    It seems that Democrats are using the wealthy homosexual lobby to rake in the cash. Just like they use minorities to rake in the votes.

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