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OffTopic: NYT Confesses, One or Two Guys Have Shifted Their Sexual Identity

 

A surprisingly sympathetic profile in the New York Times of a few men who say therapy helped them lead sexual lives consistent with their values.

This is off-topic for us, but thought it was an interesting development:

"For most of his life, Blake Smith said, “every inch of my body craved male sexual contact.”

Mr. Smith, 58, who says he believes homosexual behavior is wrong on religious grounds, tried to tough it out. He spent 17 years in a doomed marriage while battling his urges all day, he said, and dreaming about them all night.

But in recent years, as he probed his childhood in counseling and at men’s weekend retreats with names like People Can Change and Journey Into Manhood, “my homosexual feelings have nearly vanished,” Mr. Smith said in an interview at the house in Bakersfield, Calif., he shares with his second wife, who married him eight years ago knowing his history. “In my 50s, for the first time, I can look at a woman and say ‘she’s really hot.’ ”

Mr. Smith is one of thousands of men across the country, often known as “ex-gay,” who believe they have changed their most basic sexual desires through some combination of therapy and prayer — something most scientists say has never been proved possible and is likely an illusion.

Ex-gay men are often closeted, fearing ridicule from gay advocates who accuse them of self-deception and, at the same time, fearing rejection by their church communities as tainted oddities. Here in California, their sense of siege grew more intense in September when Gov. Jerry Brown signed a law banning use of widely discredited sexual “conversion therapies” for minors — an assault on their own validity, some ex-gay men feel..."

5 Comments

  1. Phil
    Posted November 3, 2012 at 3:48 pm | Permalink

    These days, our culture throws a parade when our someone comes realizes they are gay and comes out. But those who take the reverse course are apparently to be forever shunned. So much for diversity.

  2. Daughter of Eve
    Posted November 3, 2012 at 5:00 pm | Permalink

    The public must take it on face value when an individual claims to be gay. But, when someone says they no longer are gay, the LGBT demand proof, while refuting any evidense offered. How does that sound like equal treatment?

  3. Cercis621
    Posted November 3, 2012 at 6:33 pm | Permalink

    Gay activists say that homosexuals can't change. Yet, if even one person is helped, that nullifies their whole message. Therefore they seek to make it illegal to even help people change. I just got off a Yahoo discussion where the other person insisted that gay people can't change. When I gave him proof, all he said was, 'You can't turn it on and off like a switch' Maybe not, but they continue to deny that for some, change is possible.

  4. John Noe
    Posted November 3, 2012 at 9:39 pm | Permalink

    Yes articles like this proves that it is a choice.

  5. Preserve Marriage
    Posted November 8, 2012 at 10:58 pm | Permalink

    This isn't off-topic at all. It is the lie that sexual preference is immutable, like being left-handed, that homosexual activists use to get laws changed -- SSM, civil unions, hate speech, bullying and other special rights.

    I think we know that the claim, that sexual preference is immutable, is a lie. This is intuitive, and obvious to many, but the persuasive power of repeating this lie over and over and over again is very much in evidence in society.