Rhode Island School District Bans Father-Daughter Dances, Mother-Son Activities


The Providence Journal:

In a move that has taken some parents by surprise, the school department has announced that it is banning traditional "father-daughter" and "mother-son" activities, saying they violate state law.

Supt. Judith Lundsten said the move was triggered by a letter ifrom the American Civil Liberties Union on behalf of a single mom who had complained that her daughter had not been able to attend her father-daughter dance.

Lundsten said school attorneys found while federal Title IX legislation banning gender discrimination gives an exemption for "father-son" and "mother-daughter" events, Rhode Island law doesn't.


  1. Posted September 21, 2012 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

    Frankly, I don't much care, though I do care that "equality" was invoked. I don't think parent-child dancing is that appropriate.

  2. Zack
    Posted September 21, 2012 at 1:01 pm | Permalink

    Now this is silly. It plays on the generality that every daughter is a daddy's girl and every son is a momma's boy.

    I'm sure they could have made a few exceptions but to do away with them completely? Come on.

  3. OldKingBlog
    Posted September 21, 2012 at 1:07 pm | Permalink

    Zack: Now you know the totalitarian nature of the Left. Nothing and no one is to escape the imposition of their agenda. In light of that, I want you (and all who read this post) to pledge to NEVER vote for the Democratic Party or its candidates ever again!

  4. Chairm
    Posted September 21, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    This is another sign of increased sex disintegration.

    From the article: " a single mom who had complained that her daughter had not been able to attend her father-daughter dance."

    The mom and dad are not together to raise their daughter. The father would participate in the father-daughter event. But that has been banned. For what reason? It is not for the sake of sex integration. Quite the contrary. And, as it turns out in the case of that particular daughter, it is also not for the sake of compensating, socially, for increased sex segregation. Nope, the excuse, as foolish as it must be, is some tripe about "gender discrimination".

    Father-son events are a-okay but father-daughter events are beyond the pale? Likewise, Mother-daughter events are fine but not mother-son events.

    None of that should fall under an "exemption". The overall policy (for which "exemptions" are carved) is wrongheaded and anti-social in the first place.

  5. Barb Chamberlan
    Posted September 21, 2012 at 5:24 pm | Permalink

    This is beyond comprehension. Kinda like two guys getting "married." With all the crossed circuitry in these folks' brains I wonder why their heads don't explode.

    We're all entitled to equal opportunity, not equal outcome. It's too bad this girl's father is absent, but on what planet is this cause for banning all father-daughter events?

    Once the parents get over their "surprise," they need to surprise the school department by firing them.

  6. Jason
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 1:00 pm | Permalink

    Dovie E, can you please explain how father-daughter dances are inappropriate?

  7. Leslie B
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 1:36 pm | Permalink

    Well this just takes the cake! I have seen and heard some stupid stuff in my 55 years of life but this is just ridiculous! Everybody just simply is not the same ,their lives are not the same ,the people are not the same and no family's circumstances are the same. Some of my best memories are of father-daughter things. Why would anyone want to take that away from little girls?! Some of my other favorite memories are if the Mother-son activities that I had with my sons! My youngest son died at 20 years old and those memories are precious to me. Why are there people who want to destroy "normal" traditional ways of life? Make adjustments, "roll with the flow", find a surrogate , do something but don't take away the things that mean so much!!!

  8. Posted September 22, 2012 at 1:42 pm | Permalink

    I attended several daddy daughter dances with all three of mine and have to say they are some of the most memoralbe moments of my life. Gov't control is out of control, with freedoms erroding daily.

  9. Jim Graham
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 3:20 pm | Permalink

    Barb Chamberlan has a great idea. Fire the entire school department. How unbelievably foolish people have become. As soon as the ACLU got involved, it had to be a complete disaster. Someone needs to sue all of the finances out of the ACLU! That organization is BAD for America.

  10. Jacqueline
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 3:38 pm | Permalink

    This is unbelievable!! I was single mother raising three daughters with absent fathers. My girls could not attend Father Daughter dances, and since I didn't have boys, I never went to a Mother Son dance. But we survived. To have them banned because I/my children could not attend never once crossed my mind. Yes, it hurt that my children couldn't participate, but that wasn't the fault of the other children and parents who could. This is selfish with a new capital "S" and childish. Why ruin it for everyone else? There are other options. The administrators should not have banned an entire event, because of this. That is punishing the others for something they didn't have anything to do with. I hope it's reinstated once and for all.

    btw-I think Father Daughter dances and Mother Son dances are an excellent way to for fathers to bond w/their daughters and/or mothers to bond w/their son/s. Children can learn proper etiquette, and numerous other beneficial things in a social setting under the loving eye of their parents. Now how can that be inappropriate? I think it's excellent!

  11. Robert Florin
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 7:10 pm | Permalink

    This is insane, here we go again just because one little girl doesn't have a father everyone else has to suffer. I feel bad for that young girl, but don;t take away a tradition for one. This sounds like the school was looking for an excuse.

  12. Ash
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 7:38 pm | Permalink

    This wonderful tradition was just blood in the water for the ACLU. Lucky for them, Rhode Island's gender discrimination statute doesn't exempt these sort of events.

    On O'Reilly last night, Greg Gutfeld made a great point: "Big Brother" programs discriminate against him because he doesn't have a brother.

  13. Julia M
    Posted September 23, 2012 at 9:35 am | Permalink

    Beyond ridiculous, RI -- Glad I don't live there anymore. Is this applying to just tthe public schools or to all the private schools as well? I personally went to St Mary Academy Bay View for K-8 and Bishop Feehan for 9-12, and I always looked forward to my Father-Daughter Dance. Now so does my daughter at her school. In all my experiences, as student and now as the mom, if the dad isn't around, an older brother, uncle, grandfather, etc were and are always encouraged to accompany the daughter to the dance.

  14. lonesomerhoades
    Posted September 24, 2012 at 3:03 pm | Permalink

    Maybe I missed it, but why is this mother a "single mom" Did she fornicate with another man? Is the father a dead-beat dad?
    Would be nice to know.
    And regardless of the reason, the Rhode Island school system greatly erred!

  15. Janet Postma
    Posted September 26, 2012 at 7:27 pm | Permalink

    I suppose that they will have to cancel *Take your daughter to work day* because some people don't have daughters..