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UK Daily Mail: "Wife Whose Husband Became Secret Sperm Donor Calls for Change in the Law to Require Partners' Consent"

 

The UK Daily Mail:

A married woman whose husband donated sperm without her knowledge is calling for clinics to be forced to ask for a wife's consent.

The unnamed mother-of-one from Surrey said she feared that children fathered with the sperm – who would be half-brothers or sisters of her son – may one day 'disrupt' the family by getting in touch.

She has written to the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority calling for guidelines on sperm donation to include the spouse's views – and says the sperm should be treated as a joint 'marital asset'.

A controversial ruling in 2005 meant all children born through sperm donation – up to ten families are allowed per donor – have the right to trace their biological father when they reach adulthood.

In her heartfelt letter to the fertility watchdog, she told how her husband had donated sperm against her wishes after suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder following the birth of their child.

But if the children he fathers – to help infertile couples or single women – contacted her in the future, she would 'not feel able to push them away'.

The businesswoman said: 'I am personally in this situation with my husband having donated sperm against my wishes when he was suffering from PTSD.

2 Comments

  1. OvercameSSA
    Posted September 5, 2012 at 9:12 am | Permalink

    We all understand this woman's issue, because marriage is about the procreative nature of men and women. Marriage attempts to ensure that a child conceived by a couple will be raised by that couple, and it assures that children born will have their mom and dad.

    Using a married man's sperm to conceive a child with another woman is akin to adultery; it intentionally separates children from their parents.

  2. Barb Chamberlan
    Posted September 5, 2012 at 10:53 am | Permalink

    The wife said: "It would almost feel like introducing the offspring of an adulterous relationship."

    Agreed, but I would remove the word "almost." It *is* adultery.

    The children that result from this husband's decision have a right to know their father. This is a correct change in the law concerning donor anonymity. And, yes, it will affect this family, exactly as an adulterous relationship would affect the family.

    The buying, selling and trading of human gametes is an ugly thing to behold.

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