A Christmas Message from Brian Brown


"Is it just religion?"

The man stopped us as in front of the famous Mayflower Hotel's tea room. He introduced himself as an LGBT activist and asked politely, "Your opposition to gay marriage, is it just religion?"

We were busy, so I just smiled, handed him my card, and said, "Email me."

But I've been thinking of his question as I sit down to write my Christmas message to you.

How can you frame a world in which "just" and "religion" belong in the same sentence?

Just a few days from now we celebrate the most amazing thing that ever happened in humans history: God became man. A baby was born, and suddenly God was with us.

"Just religion?" is the way the world--that world which we humans are now busily attempting to remake in our own image--dulls our childlike sense of wonder, our ability to see and feel and react to the truth about who we are. We are children of the King who freely chose to love us, who taught us what love means: to be willing to die if necessary, and to get up every day to do the work that God has placed before us.

Yes, we are blessed to live in a country whose Constitution was framed by great men who understood that limiting government's power to repress religion was necessary to protect faith and faith communities. "Free exercise" is the fundamental value our Constitution gives us, because religion is so important to human life.

And no, to answer the question, of course the idea that to make a marriage you need a husband and wife is not a purely religious idea. Human beings across the centuries with different religious commitments have been able to grasp the unique nature and importance of marriage, perceiving its deep roots in the reality that when men and women give themselves to each other physically, something else momentous happens: new life.

The second-greatest day, repeated every day in the history of mankind, is the birth of an ordinary child, made in the image of God, and made for love.

Here's our Christmas card.

I told them all to smile and you can see they did! Except John, who wasn't having any of the jolly thing at that moment.

No, it's never just religion. It's the truth about life--the meaning of life, the meaning of love--that matters.

I'm so privileged to work alongside so many good people like you, to fight for the truth about love, with love.

To those of you who do not share our faith commitments, let me tell you that we treasure your fellowship, your good will, your courage and your commitment to marriage.

God bless you, each and every one.

And Merry Christmas!


  1. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:00 pm | Permalink

  2. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:01 pm | Permalink

    So Don....are you married or not? This is after all the National Organization for Marriage is it not? Try and stay on topic sir!

  3. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:02 pm | Permalink

    Hey, you guys even do BULLYING too!

    "In his continuing zeal to discredit the ex-gay community, Besen likes to bully ex-gays by insisting that we still look “gay.” When he was Director of Communications for the Human Rights Campaign, Besen delighted in telling me to “butch up” so “normal people” wouldn’t think I’m still “gay.”

    Don't you have any concen that you might cause ex-gays to cmmit suicide?

  4. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:03 pm | Permalink

    Man up already Don.

    Try and stay on topic....let me remind you what the topic is.....Marriage equality.

  5. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:05 pm | Permalink

    Ex Gays? Please Don.
    Let's talk ex heterosexuals......of the republican variety.

    You know....the kind that have a wide stance and reach under airport stalls? LOL !

  6. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:05 pm | Permalink

    "White Christian Terrorist."

    Hey, that's on topic, LOL!

  7. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:06 pm | Permalink

    OK, John, let's talk homosexual marriage:

    “The Rev. Walter E. Fauntroy, former democratic congressman and the architect of the 1963 March on Washington, calls same-sex marriage an ‘abomination’ that could destroy society … ‘For most black Americans who know our history, we do not want further confusion about what a marriage and a family happen to be.”
    — Phuong Ly and Hamil R. Harris, The Washington Post

    “The Congress of Racial Equality has fought against invidious discrimination and prejudice for over 60 years. We take it very seriously… Lifestyles changes and choices are not the moral equivalent of racial, religious and ethnic protection. While I will fight for the individual right of any one of any particular lifestyle, I will not equate and elevate it to the same moral high ground that we had in the civil rights movement in the 50’s and 60’s. Sexual orientation is not on the same moral high ground as race…”
    — Roy Innis, Congress of Racial Equality

  8. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

    Hey, look at that, "former DEMOCRATIC Congressman", Reverend Walter E. Fauntroy!

  9. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:15 pm | Permalink

    The Pew Foundation, one of the nation's most respected survey research organizations, issued a report today confirming what several recent media polls have shown: that public support for same-sex marriage is steadily increasing.

  10. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:17 pm | Permalink

    In recognition of Black History Month, here are a few key African-American leaders who support the freedom to marry:

    Charles Barkley

    Hall of Famer and 11-time NBA all-star Charles Barkley won the MVP in 1993, played in two Olympic games, and was named one of the top 50 basketball players of all time. In an interview with CNN's Campbell Brown on October 27, 2008, Barkley declared his support for marriage equality, saying, "I am a big gay marriage guy."

    Julian Bond

    NAACP Chairman and founder of the Student NonViolent Coordinating Committee Julian Bond is one of the most prominent figures in the Black Civil Rights Movement. In a 2006 speech at the University of Virginia, Bond noted, "Marriage is a civil right. If you don’t want gay people to marry in your church, good for you. But you can’t say they can’t marry in your city."

    Rev. Michael Eric Dyson

    Author and professor Rev. Michael Eric Dyson was named by Essence magazine as one of the 50 most inspiring African Americans In an interview with Tavis Smiley, Rev. Dyson said, "The ability to marry whomever one chooses is a civil rights issue, one not best left to high-minded moralists. Our feathers needn't be ruffled by gays and lesbians who seek to tie the knot of matrimony."

    Whoopi Goldberg

    The award winning actress Whoopi Goldberg often says, "If you don't believe in gay marriage, then don't marry a gay person." She has been a longtime supporter of civil rights for LGBT people and in fall 2008, she marched with 15,000 New Yorkers in protest of Proposition 8.

    Melissa Harris-Lacewell

    Princeton University professor and writer Melissa Harris-Lacewell has provided political and cultural commentary for The Chicago Tribune, The Los Angeles Times, Crain's Chicago Business and Newsday and on NBC and MSNBC. In the October 2009 issue of The Nation, she said "My fierce commitment to marriage equality derives, in part, from my personal biography as an interracial child, descended from American slaves, and raised in Virginia, beginning less than a decade after the Loving decision. Even though I am heterosexual, marriage equality is personal. I learn from the history of racial and interracial marriage exclusion that the denial of marriage rights to same-sex couples is wrong."

    Coretta Scott-King

    Coretta Scott King (1927-2006), wife of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., was an active civil rights activist in her own right helping to organize the 1955 Montgomery Bus Boycott and actively advocating civil rights legislation, including the Civil Rights Act of 1964. In speaking out against the Federal Marriage Amendment which would have amended the U.S. Constitution to bar same-sex couples from marriage she said, "A Constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage is a form of gay bashing and it would do nothing at all to protect traditional marriages."

    Rev. Eric Lee

    Rev. Eric Lee is president/CEO of the Los Angeles chapter of The Southern Christian Leadership Conference, the 50-year-old civil rights organization founded by the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr About the freedom to marry, Rev. Lee has said, "Marriage equality is a civil rights issue. Anytime one group of people is denied the rights another group of people enjoy, it is fundamentally a denial of civil rights."

    Gov. Deval Patrick

    Gov. Deval Patrick became the first African-American to be elected governor of Massachusetts in 2006. A strong supporter of the freedom to marry, Gov. Patrick has said, "People come before their government as equals... If the government is going to give marriage licenses to anyone, it has to give them to everyone, regardless of whether the spouse you choose is of the same gender."

    Russell Simmons

    Hip hop impresario and co-founder of Def Jam Records Russell Simmons sent an open letter to New York Governor David Paterson in support of marriage equality in April 2009, and then in October 2009 participated in the Love Unites Shepard Fairey Equality Project, an advocacy project created to raise awareness of LGBT equality.

    Wanda Sykes

    The stand up comic and TV actress who was named one of Entertainment Weekly's 25 Funniest People in America in 2004 has long been a supporter of LGBT equality. She came out publicly to announce her marriage to her wife in the wake of the passage of Prop 8 in California saying "We shouldn't have to be standing out here demanding something we automatically should have as citizens of this country."Go to [Link] for more Voices for Equality

  11. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:28 pm | Permalink

    ROFL! I LOVE it, John! Thanks for the laugh!

    Charles Barkely:

    "Oh no, Sir Charles!"

    "Hoops legend Charles Barkley was busted for suspected drunken driving Wednesday - and made things worse by admitting he was rushing to pick up a woman for a sex act."

    "I was going to drive around the corner and get [oral sex]," the basketball Hall of Famer told police in Scottsdale, Ariz., a police report said."

    "He said the woman had performed the sex act for him last week and "it was the best one he had ever had," the report said."

  12. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:38 pm | Permalink

    Coretta Scott-King....heard of her Don? She was married to the Rev Martin Luthur King....the same one who's name you like to throw around.

    Why are you so afraid to answer my question? I'll ask you at a time.

    Are You Married?

  13. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 1:54 pm | Permalink

    Hey, John, no fair trying to cut down your list now, YOU put Charles Barkley at the TOP of your list.

    Somehow I don't think that homosexual "marriage" supporter Sir Charles Barkley rises to the status of Reverend Fauntroy, the architect of the 1963 March on Washington, or Roy Innis of the Congress of Racial Equality.

    Now you are certainly welcome to put Sir Charles at the very top your list of homosexual "marriage" supporters but I'll stick with Reverend Fauntroy and Roy Innis for the top of my list, if that's OK with you.

    Sir Charles said, "I am a big gay marriage guy." Hey, that's potent. On the other hand, Reverend Fauntroy calls homosexual "marriage" an abomination and states that, it could destroy society. He futher indicates how homosexual "marrige" would hurt the African-American community:

    "For most black Americans who know our history, we do not want further confusion about what a marriage and a family happen to be.”

    Given the plethora, NOT ONE PERSON, of examples I have given above of the blatant racisim in the homosexual community, it is not at all surprising that your movement wouldn't care if your marriage agenda hurts African-Americans or not.

  14. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 2:17 pm | Permalink

    Are you Married?

  15. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 2:39 pm | Permalink

    Well, John, if you want to skip around on your list of homosexual "marriage" supporters, we can do that.

    Let's see... Whoopi Goldberg!

    Miss Whoopi got herself in a little hot water over her comments regarding the legal problems of Roman Polanski, film director and husband of the late Sharon Tate. What, exactly, did Whoopi say?

    "I know it wasn't rape-rape. It was something else but I don't believe it was rape-rape. He went to jail and and when they let him out he was like "You know what this guy's going to give me a hundred years in jail I'm not staying, so that's why he left."

    What is she talking about? Well, Polanski was dealing with this and so decided to flee the United States rather than face the music:

    "On March 10, 1977, Polanski, then aged 43, became embroiled in a scandal involving 13-year-old Samantha Gailey (now Samantha Geimer).[9] A grand jury charged Polanski with rape by use of drugs, perversion, sodomy, lewd and lascivious act upon a child under fourteen, and furnishing a controlled substance to a minor,[10] which ultimately led to Polanski's guilty plea to the charge of unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor."

    Little wonder that you homosexual "marriage" activists aren't at all concerned about the "FCKH8" videos!

  16. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 2:51 pm | Permalink

    Why are you afraid to answer the question?

    Are you Married?

  17. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 3:03 pm | Permalink

    Ah, but that isn't the WHOLE story about the homosexual "marriage" supporter you listed, Whoopi Goldberg!

    "Whoopi Goldberg defends her claim that 'bonehead' Mel Gibson isn't a racist
    BY Kristie Cavanagh

    "Thursday, July 15th 2010, 10:37 AM"

    "Whoopi Goldberg caused an uproar when she defended Mel Gibson on Monday's episode of "The View" - and despite a slew of angry phone calls, the TV host is sticking by her statements."

    "There has been a lot of hassle ... in the media recently about moi because I had the audacity to say that I had some personal time with Mel that goes over years and years and said that I did not think of him as a racist," Goldberg said on Thursday's episode of "The View."

    Well what did Mel say which might make some think that he is a racist? What is it which Whoopi is defending?

    "WORLD EXCLUSIVE: Mel Gibson's Racist Rant Caught On Tape - Tells Oksana She Would Get 'Raped By N***ers'

    "In one of the most explosive, racist and vile outbursts by a celebrity ever caught on tape, Mel Gibson told the mother of his love child that the way she was dressed would get her "raped by a pack of n***ers," has learned exclusively."

    "It's a shocking and blockbuster development in the couple's bitter legal battle, and Mel's disgusting words are on audio tape. His racist, misogynist statement is one of the secrets lurking in his war with his former girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva."

    " has heard the tape, which also includes Mel telling Oksana he will burn down her home."

    "Drunken Mel previously shocked the world with his anti-Semetic comments when busted for DUI. Now, the new racist outburst has taken the Oscar winner to an even deeper low."

    No wonder that the homosexual community doesn't have any problem practicing racism. Whoopi defends it!

  18. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 3:10 pm | Permalink

    You must be under the delusion that you are an Iowa Supreme Court judge and can compell me to answer your questions, LOL!

    I've already answered that, in detail, here in the NOM blogs. Go find it.

    Anyway, why do you care if I'm married or not. You've already declared me to be a "White Christian Terrorist".

    Federal authorities! Federal authorities!

  19. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 8:48 pm | Permalink

    Well if one white christian is a terrorist than they must all be.....your logic Don, not mine. Guess your marital status is a sore spot for you. Sorry if I hit a nerve.

  20. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:05 pm | Permalink

    ROFL! John, you couldn't hit a nerve with a 16 inch gun on a stationary battleship at half a mile, LOL!

    The only way you're ever going to hit a nerve is if you become a dentist, LOL!

  21. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:15 pm | Permalink

    Oh, so your affirming that I'm a, "White Christian Terrorist"!

    Federal authorities! Federal authorities!

  22. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:18 pm | Permalink

    It's "You're" affirming......wish you'd affirm for me if you are married or not...and if you are, if it's your first or second or third marriage.....but you don't have the guts to be honest with me.

  23. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:21 pm | Permalink

    Yo! I already told you, John, that I have answered the question of my marital status is detail in the NOM blogs. Now if you want it so badly, get off of your duff and go find it. Stop being so lazy. Sweat a little, will 'ya, LOL!

  24. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:24 pm | Permalink

    I'm not going to sift thru this site just to find out you're divorced and couldn't keep your marriage together. Since you won't answer I'll just have to assume the sanctity of your marriages couldn't be saved.

  25. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:44 pm | Permalink

    Want much, John?

    I have already given you countless statements confriming the existence of rampant racial discriminaton in the homosexual community aganist African-Americans, Latinos and Asians.

    I have already provided you with statments by Reverened Fauntnroy and Roy Innis that homosexual "marriage" is an "abominination" that could destoy society and that it doesn't rise to the same moral high ground as race.

    I've shown you that Charles Barkley, at the top of your list of homosexual marriage suppoters, was stopped for suspicion of drunk driving and admitted to being on his way to yet another rendezvous for oral sex.

    I've already provided you with documentation of how another of your homosexual marriage supporters, Whoopi Goldberg, got into hot water for her comments in minimizing the crimes of Roman Polanski who plead guilty to unlawful intercourse with a minor and then skipped out of the country to avoid being sentenced and serving his prison term.

    I've also provided you with documentation of how Whoopi again got herself in hot water for stating that Mel Gibson is NOT a racist after he used the "N" word while being filmed on video.

    I've already provided you proof that the Communist Party backs your homosexual "equality" agenda.

    After I have provided you ALL of that, you now want me to provide you with yet MORE information, this time about my marital status, and you aren't even willing to make the slighest effort to find it for yourself in the NOM blogs where it already exists.

    John, you're high maintenance, Dude, LOL! 😉

  26. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 9:58 pm | Permalink

    Let me see if I have this right, John. I can do independent research, dig out relevant information for you and post it here WITH links for your convenience but you aren't even willing to search through the NOM blogs to find existing information on my marital status which you have asked me for repeatedly. Is that about it?

    Hey, John, YOU do a little work for a change, LOL!

  27. John W
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 10:07 pm | Permalink

    You've provided everything but what I have asked for.
    You post links. I post links. You rarely stay on topic but go off on tangents to try and derail the discussion.

    It's an old tactic. It's annoying and proves to me that you can't discuss the topic of gay marriage because your arguments are hollow and lack substance. I don't wish to waste anymore of my time with your nonsense.

  28. Don
    Posted January 2, 2011 at 10:24 pm | Permalink

    Alright, John, that's fine. Don't waste any more time with my nonsense. Cheers! 🙂

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