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Minnesota Couple, Together 83 Years, Becomes Couple Married the Longest

 

Inspiring proof that lifelong married love is possible:

The Year was 1925 ... In Hugo, Minn., an 18-year-old man named Clarence Vail married his 16-year-old sweetheart, Mayme. They had met in the eighth grade, and marriages at such young ages were more the norm than the exception back then. Unremarkable at the time, that union, now 83 years old and still as strong as ever, has finally claimed a place among the historic events of the year.

NBC’s Kevin Tibbles reported for TODAY on Monday that Clarence and Mayme Vail are going into “Guinness World Records” for being married longer than any other living couple on earth.

They don’t have a magic formula to explain the success of their marriage. They just took seriously what they said to each other when they stood at the altar.

“You take your vows, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer,” Mayme said. “I guess you just stick to it, come what may.”

... their biggest challenge came in 1948, when Clarence was diagnosed with tuberculosis.

According to “The Catholic Spirit,” the newspaper of the archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis, Mayme promised that if her husband survived, she would attend Mass every day for the rest of her life.

She kept it up for nearly 60 years, until the couple moved into a retirement home within the last year. Now, she’s down to two Masses a week, but she still says the rosary regularly — another daily ritual for nearly her entire life. She offered few secrets to long life and a long marriage, other than to say they never smoke or drank — both seemed a waste of money.

Their faith told them to stay faithful through thick and thin, and they did that. It also told them to be fruitful and multiply, and they did that, too. -- MSNBC

28 Comments

  1. OvercameSSA
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Permalink

    186 descendants! And a wonderful legacy of long marriages of these descendants. This is what it means to be alive, to be human.

    What legacy do same-sex couples offer but a mish-mash of disconnected children from a hodge-podge of moms and dads? Oh, but it makes the same-sex couples so happy, so forget the children!

  2. Louis E.
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 1:58 pm | Permalink

    I hope they both last four more years and take the all-time record for marriage length!

  3. Posted April 28, 2012 at 2:23 pm | Permalink

    I wonder if we should encourage people to marry before the age of 20. I heard that repeated broken relationships and casual sex can impair the ability to engage in pair bonding, due to something called oxytocin. Would not early marriage avoid this issue?

  4. Scrounger
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 3:11 pm | Permalink

    What happened to that couple from Buffalo?

  5. Ash
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 3:50 pm | Permalink

    Wow. These two people are responsible for the existence of 186 citizens! I never cease to be amazed at the beauty of the relationship between a man and woman united in marriage.

    I’m the type of person that believes older people are generally full of wisdom. After all, humans throughout history have respected and honored older people—even sitting around fires to hear them speak. So much for this generation and the current ssm movement, which regularly says harsh things like “when these old people die by the thousands, we can finally have ‘equality.’”

    I, on the other hand, think our marriage culture would benefit tremendously by listening to the advice of people who come from the same generation as the Vails. People who’ve been married for 83 years can give lots of valuable advice to young men and women seeking to establish a family.

  6. Posted April 28, 2012 at 4:20 pm | Permalink

    Marriage is all about tying two sides of our biological family tree together in the public union of husband and wife, and tying the generations together from parents to children. It's about roots and branches.

    Congratulations to the happy couple! May their marriage endure for time and all eternity.

  7. Pat
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 6:30 pm | Permalink

    "Marriage sure is great!"
    -Probably the worst argument I've ever heard about why we should prevent it.

  8. Randy E King
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 6:36 pm | Permalink

    Pat,

    "Probably the worst argument I've ever heard about why we should prevent it"

    Protect it the argument put forward is a rational for the PROTECTION of marriage.

    I hope this clear things up for you; cheers ;)

  9. Posted April 28, 2012 at 8:53 pm | Permalink

    Congrats on 83 years of marriage. I hope me and my fiancee have as many happy years together.

  10. Louis E.
    Posted April 28, 2012 at 10:19 pm | Permalink

    WHOOPS...I just noticed that it's been more than 83 years since 1925...and it turns out the Vails have died since the above was written (in 2008 and 2010).

  11. Paul Mc
    Posted April 29, 2012 at 3:24 pm | Permalink

    Why is this being reported as if it is in today's news?

  12. Gigi
    Posted April 29, 2012 at 5:27 pm | Permalink

    I'ce been in a same sex, monogamous relationship for 23 years. That's like 75 in straight years!!

  13. GZeus
    Posted April 29, 2012 at 5:31 pm | Permalink

    Why? Typical NOM.

  14. Posted April 29, 2012 at 10:22 pm | Permalink

    "-Probably the worst argument I've ever heard about why we should prevent it."

    No one's trying to "prevent" marriage. Whoops! :)

  15. Guy in CA
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 1:09 am | Permalink

    @OvercameSSA
    "What legacy do same-sex couples offer but a mish-mash of disconnected children from a hodge-podge of moms and dads? Oh, but it makes the same-sex couples so happy, so forget the children!"

    The mish-mash you speak about are the unwanted result of irresponsible procreation. They are much better off growing up in a loving hodge-podge family then being shuffled between foster homes or spending their lives rotting in an orphanage.

  16. Mykelb
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 10:37 am | Permalink

    These people are dead. So typical of NOM.

  17. Chairm
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 11:03 am | Permalink

    Guy in CA:

    SSM is not the solution for orphaned children.

    Meanwhile, the foster care system is not going to be saved by the politics of the gay identity group.

    But the promotion of a flourishing marriage culture will do far, far, far more than all the SSM arguments and all the SSM advocates might do -- cumulatively -- during the next 83 years.

  18. OvercameSSA
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 11:04 am | Permalink

    Guy in CA -

    If they left it adoption of unwanted orphans, I might actually agree with you. But we know that it doesn't stop at that; it becomes the intentionally orphaning of a child at birth from one or both of its parents. And this, done solely for the selfish desires of the couple, same-sex or otherwise, I should add.

  19. Bruce
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 12:25 pm | Permalink

    "But we know that it doesn't stop at that; it becomes the intentionally orphaning of a child at birth from one or both of its parents."

    This nonsense has become so tiresome. This "intentional orphaning" that your side drones on and on about can only be achieved by the completely intentional waiving of parental rights by the biological parent. This is the very same "intentional orphaning" which happens with some heterosexual couples who, like same-sex couples, are also unable to conceive on their own.

  20. Pat
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 3:27 pm | Permalink

    "No one's trying to 'prevent' marriage. Whoops!"
    You are quite literally working to prevent marriages. You can use the words "Protect Marriage" without explaining how you're supposedly doing it (You "protect" your marriage by depriving me of mine? Excuse me, I need to "protect" my wallet), but you can *NOT* deny that you want to prevent marriages.

    It's a very simple objective truth.

  21. Posted April 30, 2012 at 4:53 pm | Permalink

    No Pat, I support you getting married. Find an opposite-sexed individual adult (not too closely related, according to the laws of your state) who will commit to marriage with you, and go for it! I'll raise a glass of ginger ale in your honor. :)

  22. Joan
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 5:08 pm | Permalink

    Though I am all of 21, I ardently look forward to the days when I have found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and start a family. Never mind the fact that marriage would technically be illegal for us; love finds a way! Would this couple have split up ten years down the road if their relationship wasn't legitimized by a legal document and a church's blessing? There are many same sex couples who live their entire lives together in commitment, and by working to prevent marriage between these people only teaches my generation and my children's generation that marriage isn't necessary for wholeness and happiness.

  23. Chad
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 5:55 pm | Permalink

    PLAGIARIZING!

    the story ran on NBC in 2008! Amazing how the wording and sentences are the exact same:

    http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23671580/ns/today-today_news/t/couple-married-years-share-their-secret/

  24. Posted April 30, 2012 at 8:32 pm | Permalink

    Looks like my first reply got lost in cyberspace. Any-hoo,

    Pat said, "You "protect" your marriage by depriving me of mine?"

    Actually, Pat, quite to the contrary. Any time you choose to get married (which is a public union between you and the opposite sexed person of your choice), I'll cheer you on, and raise a glass of ginger ale in your honor. :)

  25. ResistSSA
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 9:40 pm | Permalink

    Bruce said: "This is the very same "intentional orphaning" which happens with some heterosexual couples who, like same-sex couples, are also unable to conceive on their own."

    Yes, and I am against that intentional orphaning, as well. K?

  26. OvercameSSA
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 9:43 pm | Permalink

    Pat -

    You can't "prevent" that which doesn't exist, by definition. Marriage IS the union of a man and a woman.

    A "married" same-sex couple is a contradiction in terms. It would be a same-sex, male-female couple. That's an oxymoron.

    So, you see, there is no preventing anyone from anything.

  27. OvercameSSA
    Posted April 30, 2012 at 9:46 pm | Permalink

    Bruce said: "This is the very same "intentional orphaning" which happens with some heterosexual couples who, like same-sex couples, are also unable to conceive on their own."

    Yes, and I am against this intentional orphaning of children, as well. K? Children should have a right to their REAL mom and dad, not some imitation and certainly not some same-sex imitation which lacks the gender difference. Why do people want to eff-up kids' lives? I'll tell you why: selfishness and the belief that children are commodities.

  28. Sean
    Posted May 3, 2012 at 2:10 am | Permalink

    What a sweet couple, and oh my what's this? Even with gay marriage slowly becoming more and more legal they're still together? Why yes they are. So how about you people knocking gay marriage stop telling people it will destroy marriage because clearly this couple, despite going through everything from the old fight of African-Americans having equal rights (which people use to protest with the Bible) to homosexuals having equal rights, are still together. So just be quiet already and let what's going to happen happen. If you truly love one another, gay or straight, and remember for better or for worse, then you'll stay together no matter what "threat" comes your way.