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FRC's Bazikian Offers Hope For Those Considering Divorce

 

Obed Bazikian is an intern for the Family Research Council and writes on Dr. Pat Fagan's blog about some surprising statistics about divorce:

[Andrew] Mrozek [of the Institute for Marriage and Family] references some interesting findings from The Institute for American Values. One study states that of couples who have filed for divorce, 40% of one or both of them have a desire to be reconciled. Among Minnesota’s divorced population, 66 percent wished that they would have tried harder to reconcile with their former spouse. An astonishing final study states that “two out of three unhappily married adults who avoided divorce or separation were happily married five years later”.

If the partners would make every effort to work out their differences, as the last study references, over 60 percent of potential divorces could be reconciled successfully and result in a happy marriage. That is exciting news. Marriage is hard work and requires a new level of self-sacrifice that most are not used to prior to their “I do’s”. But, if you stick it out, there are benefits on so many levels. The Marriage and Religion Research Institute’s 162 Reasons to Marry provides a detailed window into these different areas a committed marriage can profit not only yourself, but society. So if divorce is on your mind, seek a counselor and get help! There is hope for you and your marriage!

2 Comments

  1. Zack
    Posted March 23, 2012 at 3:18 pm | Permalink

    This study proves that the reason for divorce is laziness. If neither party is willing to invest more into the relationship, then what was the point of getting married? Love? Love is an emotion that fizzles out over time. Not saying you can't marry for love, but it takes more than emotions to make such relationships work.

  2. Little man
    Posted March 23, 2012 at 5:59 pm | Permalink

    Would be important to mention that when a person leaves a marriage, it is usually because he/she finds another mate that's more 'fun', but generally those mates have a hard time settling down in a marriage, and it's just a roller-coaster ride which ends as fast as it started. The 'grass seems greener on the other side of the fence' type of syndrome. Then, they want to go back to their long-term, stable marriage, with their tail in-between their legs. Divorce often has the 3rd dimension, which is 'the other woman/man'. It is not just about the married couple. And once the matter becomes legal, the government does more harm than good, because people feel they have lost their privacy in these matters. Just a thought.