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Dear Friend of Marriage,

The national fight to protect marriage is heating up!

Here's how the Associated Press reported it:

"Foes and supporters of same-sex marriage are gearing up for five costly and bruising statewide showdowns in the coming months on an issue that evenly divides Americans. It's an election year subplot sure to stir up heated emotions—even beyond the confines of North Carolina, Minnesota, Maryland, Maine and Washington state. National advocacy groups will be deeply engaged, and advertising is likely to surface from each side that outrages the other."

But here's how I responded:

"'It's crunch time,' said Brian Brown of the National Organization for Marriage, the paramount fundraiser for opponents of gay marriage. 'We view it as a massive opportunity for a national referendum.'"

A big challenge is also a massive opportunity. The voters of this country have been given a huge new opportunity to visibly send a message to the Supreme Court, to the pundits, and to the President: When it comes to marriage there is no red state/blue state divide. People believe marriage is the union of husband and wife.

In Washington state, Preserve Marriage Washington is out collecting signatures to put gay marriage on the ballot. Maryland Marriage Alliance is busy doing the same in Maryland. The battle for North Carolina is heating up for a May 8th vote. Minnesotans continue to organize for that state's fight.

Here's Kalley Yanta with the latest in a series of Minnesota Marriage Minutes:



I'm in Iowa next week for the well-named LUV rally (Let Us Vote!) to push for a state marriage amendment which would give Iowans the right to decide the future of marriage.

These are all tough fights, but eminently winnable. And remember, in the tough fights there is a huge opportunity—to show once again that we can stand up for what's right in this country, and win.

Our own founding Chairman of the Board, Prof. Robby George, was in federal court this week seeking a win for marriage. He is asking a judge to uphold marriage as the union of husband and wife—including the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which governs (or ought to govern) federal pension law.

In 2006, a woman named Ellyn Farley went to Canada and had a same-sex marriage ceremony. That ceremony was not legally recognized in the state where she lived at the time (Illinois), nor in Pennsylvania, where she later died of cancer. Ellyn designated her elderly mother the beneficiary of her life insurance and retirement packages, and left her partner Jennifer Tobits her Jeep, the condo they shared, and the cash in her bank account. But Tobits is now suing to take away from Farley's mother the benefits Ellyn left her, using the Canadian same-sex marriage to challenge not only Farley's last wishes, but the federal Defense of Marriage Act.

As Peter Breen, executive director of the Thomas More Society (which is representing Ellyn's mother in court) said, "The reason this case is so important is that the 3rd Circuit has not decided some of the key legal issues around same-sex marriage, relationships and DOMA."

Meanwhile, what's next for the progressives who want to raise your kids and grandkids in their morality?

If you need a little extra motivation in the face of great challenges, take a peek at this new children's book, "What Makes a Baby." It will probably be coming to a school near you soon, at least if the author has his way.

The author, Cory Silverberg, says this picture book will include information on all the (30!) ways parents can get a baby, including "a doctor, fertility clinic, adoption or foster agency; it might be a turkey baster and a friend; it might be a sperm donor or a surrogate."

According to Lifesite News, "The author intends that his 'book for kids about sex,' aimed at pre-schools through to 8-years-olds, will also be accompanied by a teacher's resource to assist its implementation in a school setting."

Pope Benedict spoke this week to the bishops of Minnesota, and North and South Dakota. He called on them to keep standing up to the secularist culture on marriage, because the issues as stake are so foundational:

"[P]articular mention must be made of the powerful political and cultural currents seeking to alter the legal definition of marriage. The Church's conscientious effort to resist this pressure calls for a reasoned defense of marriage as a natural institution consisting of a specific communion of persons, essentially rooted in the complementarity of the sexes and oriented to procreation. Sexual differences cannot be dismissed as irrelevant to the definition of marriage. Defending the institution of marriage as a social reality is ultimately a question of justice, since it entails safeguarding the good of the entire human community and the rights of parents and children alike."

The idea that we are made male and female for a reason, and called to come together in love in this thing called "marriage"—to give ourselves to one another, and to the children our unions can make—is too precious and too foundational to be surrendered without a fight!

My wife and I recently learned we have yet another reason to rejoice and to fight the good fight: We are expecting our eighth child!

Thanks for all that you've done to sustain the National Organization for Marriage in the great battle—and me personally.

Thank you for your cards, your emails, your prayers, your phone calls and your financial support.

I'm humbled and in awe of all that you've made possible.

God bless you!

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This message has been authorized and paid for by the National Organization for Marriage, 2029 K Street NW, Suite 300, Washington, DC 20006, Brian Brown, President. This message has not been authorized or approved by any candidate.


  1. AM
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 5:34 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations to you and your family, Brian. :-)
    Thank you for all you do.

  2. Ash
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 5:53 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations, Brian! God bless you and your family!

  3. Posted March 15, 2012 at 6:05 pm | Permalink

    Wonderful news, Brian. Your children are blessed to have you and your wife as their parents.

  4. Roberto
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 6:33 pm | Permalink

    Thank you, Brian, for maintaining NOM's ugly visibility, and helping to convert the otherwise uninterested into supporting equal legal rights for gays and lesbians!

  5. Good news
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 6:37 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations Brian and thanks for your work.

    And Thank You to everyone here and elsewhere, for your voice, your action, your effort and your dignity in acknowledging that never can it, nor will it come to pass that the man-woman union be demeaned, or left unnamed.

    Thank You all! You are, encouraging.

  6. Baldy
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 7:22 pm | Permalink

    Congrats on #8!!!
    I'm oldest of 12 and father of 4 grown children (3 married and 2 grandchildren).
    Too late now, but will regret til my dying day that we didn't try for more.
    Please keep up the great work. What a shame for our country and HIS Church that so many are blinded by evil and out 'modern' ways.
    Prayers are with you and yours AND your efforts in this major battle.
    God Bless!

  7. TC Matthews
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 7:52 pm | Permalink


  8. Mary
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 8:15 pm | Permalink

    Good news!

  9. Mary
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 8:15 pm | Permalink

    I like the messages for Minnesota Minute. They're concise and clear. Great idea.

  10. Zack
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 8:38 pm | Permalink

    We can't get this wrong this year.

  11. Barb Chamberlan
    Posted March 15, 2012 at 10:50 pm | Permalink

    Congrats Brian and family!

  12. Dave
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 1:07 am | Permalink

    Per the Minnesota Marriage Minute Video - if part of a marriage and marriage ceremony is standing in front of friends and family (or at least a magistrate), and pledging to raise together any children resulting from the union, then shouldn't society ban divorce for married couples who have children?

  13. L. Marie
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 5:35 am | Permalink

    Congratulations to you all! What a beautiful family you have!

  14. Ruth
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 6:43 am | Permalink

    I hope you enjoy the basic joys of commitment, love, and family. Tragic that you are blocking others from the same.

  15. TC Matthews
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 7:11 am | Permalink

    Ruth, What are you talking about? It's a free country. Everyone has the same opportunity and ability to marry, raise a family and express love and commitment as anyone else. Freedom. It's a wonderful thing.

  16. JR
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 7:31 am | Permalink

    TC Matthews - unless you are born gay.

  17. TC Matthews
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 7:53 am | Permalink

    JR, unless nothing. Welcome to humanity! You're human too! Your statement's most important word is born. You were born. After that, the world's an open book. You can choose how you live, you can choose what you will be, and who you want to become. Life isn't easy for anyone, everyone's got challenges, but that doesn't change the fact that we are all equally, beautifully, uniquely! free.

  18. ResistSSA
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 9:27 am | Permalink

    Another great video, this one calling attention to the fact that marriage is not just about two people loving each other and committing to stay together until they no longer want to.

    Marriage is inextricably tied to the possibility of procreation; without that element, it is meaningless; it's just two people deciding to spend some time together with no impact on anyone but themselves.

    To understand the importance of procreation in marriage, it sometimes helps to look at divorce. When we hear of a divorce, one of the first questions asked is whether or not the couple had kids. Because if they did, we perceive the divorce as a terrible tragedy. If they didn't, we perceive it as a mere failed friendship. Divorce with children separates children from parents. Contrast that with "divorce" of a same-sex couple: the child has already been separated from its parents, previously deprived of at least one gender role in its life.

  19. Bryce K.
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 11:24 am | Permalink

    Well, LGBTs aren't free to marry the person they love if they so happen to fall in love with a member of the same sex. Whereas straight people are allowed to marry the person they love because they are of opposite sexes.

  20. Posted March 16, 2012 at 11:39 am | Permalink

    "I hope you enjoy the basic joys of commitment, love, and family. Tragic that you are blocking others from the same."

    There is nothing prohibiting a person who identities with gay activism or a gay lifestyle from forming commitments (even life-long ones) with family members, friends, etc. Sexual orientation is a non-issue.

  21. M. Jones
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 11:42 am | Permalink

    Bryce, whose problem is that? Just because you love your best friend or like your dog, won't ever make that a marriage. Fix the lifestyle problem, not re-define marriage.

  22. Posted March 16, 2012 at 12:01 pm | Permalink

    "Whereas straight people are allowed to marry the person they love because they are of opposite sexes."

    Not necessarily--we haven't legalized polygamy, bigamy, or any polyamory; we don't allow for loving siblings to marry, or a parent/adult child union. We-the--people don't regulate love, we regulate sexual unions. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with it.

  23. ResistSSA
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 12:02 pm | Permalink

    Bryce -

    Who you love is irrelevant to the purpose of marriage. Some guys love their sisters but aren't allowed to marry. Know why? Marriage is about sex between opposite-sex partners and the possibility of children being conceived. Same-sex couples can love one another all they want, but there is never a possibility of children, thus marriage is irrelevant to them from a State/societal perspective.

    Go have a commitment ceremony with whomever you love; but don't expect the taxpayers to pay for any benefits for your loving couple: it offers nothing to society in exchange.

  24. AD
    Posted March 16, 2012 at 3:43 pm | Permalink

    @17 - Sexual orientation is a non-issue? I guess NOM can close up and go home, then!

  25. Posted March 16, 2012 at 4:41 pm | Permalink

    Well, LGBTs aren't free to marry the person they love if they so happen to fall in love with a member of the same sex.

    That is due to the nature of marriage itself.

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