"I'm Gay And I Oppose Legislation" to Redefine Marriage in Maryland


The Maryland Gazette on Maryland residents testifying at a Senate committee hearing last Tuesday:

"...a gay man from Potomac asked the committee to defeat the bill, saying the proposal by Gov. Martin O’Malley would undermine one of society’s most basic principles, that marriage is between a man and a woman.

“I’m gay and I’m opposed to this legislation,” said Doug Mainwaring, a divorced father of two who works for the National Capital Tea Party Patriots.

“I totally believe in civil unions, but I would like to see marriage preserved for one man and one woman. Marriage is the building block of our civilization,” he said.

In a hearing that lasted all afternoon, the Senate Judicial Proceedings Committee heard from about 60 supporters of the bill, and a similar number of opponents.


  1. Randy E King
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 10:21 am | Permalink

    Can any of these people agree on a single descriptive for their proclivity? It has gotten to the point that even the judiciary is wise to the fact that these miscreants cannot agree upon the definition of the words they use as a self descriptive.

    They might as well be calling themselves Goony-ga-ga's...

  2. QueerNE
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 10:24 am | Permalink

    So what?

  3. Ash
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 10:39 am | Permalink

    Gays and lesbians are not one mind on this issue, as some would have us to believe. Kudos to this gentleman for speaking out.

  4. Sheryl Carver
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 11:13 am | Permalink

    I'm guessing there is a greater percentage of Christians who support marriage equality than there are gay men who oppose it.

  5. JR
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 11:24 am | Permalink

    Ash - Christians are not of one mind on this issue either. I am a gay Catholic who supports marriage equality.

  6. Barb Chamberlan
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 11:34 am | Permalink

    Mr. Mainwaring is certainly not alone in his beliefs. It's always great to hear a reasonable opinion like his. He seems to understand our side of the issue. I do hope he is not severely harassed for speaking his mind, as are so many others.

  7. Randy E King
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 11:43 am | Permalink


    How can you profess to be that which your actions show you clearly are not?

    By their fruits you shall know them.

  8. RichardCortijo
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 12:59 pm | Permalink

    Does he explain why he is against marriage for gays, how does it dismantle the building blocks of society? Do traditional marraiges crumble? He is 'just against it"? Sounds like he's a bit jaded to me. You can't just be against it with no reasoning.

  9. Posted February 14, 2012 at 2:06 pm | Permalink

    He's right--marriage between a man and a woman is the foundational most basic form of representative govt. for any civilization. A man/woman marriage equally represents both sexes of humanity; if they have children, they represent the fruition of the unique pairing that is man+woman.

  10. Marcos
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    And SSM is somehow going to STOP straights from doing everything they are doing now? I still would like to see examples of this, please DoE.

  11. The.Truth
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

    I would venture to guess that there are far more straight guys who are opposed to marriage, and libertarians who are opposed to it being regulated by the state, then there are gay guys who are opposed to marriage equality.

  12. roger
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 4:05 pm | Permalink

    Marcos - Straights will stop marring. Marriage rates are declining - especially in jurisdictions with Same Sex Marriage. Why does anyone need a license from the Government to Love? And it only benefits a couple financially if there is a large disparity in incomes.

  13. The.Truth
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 4:56 pm | Permalink

    So long as you make no mistake, Sarkozy was elected based on economic concerns, much like New Hampshire's legislature, and the moment that's no longer relevant, they won't be kept around based on their stance against same gender marriage, in fact that's likely to be a liability.

  14. Layne
    Posted February 14, 2012 at 9:31 pm | Permalink

    A gay guy spouting NOM talking points? Yeah that's believable. Let me guess: He said the gay is curable too, right?

  15. Zack
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 2:05 am | Permalink

    The left can never listen to a homosexual who opposes the redefinition of marriage. For pete's sake they label GOProud as "self-loathing". So is homophobia prelevant when only liberals spout it?

    I would like a poll on how many homosexuals actually support the idea of same-sex marriage. It's likely most are against it.

  16. Greg
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 10:29 am | Permalink

    Of course it's possible for a homosexual to not support marriage equality. It's also possible for a prisoner to think prison is his only guarantee of food and shelter. Sambo? Jim Crow? Stocholm Syndrome? Cecil B. Demented-apologies, I jest. The individual NOT holding the whip? Arranged marriages? Many oppressed and outnumbered minorities succumb to the whims and beliefs of their captors. Doesn't make it right. But, if nom and it's followers believe that's the way it should be, that may just be what that ilk white knuckles to preserve it's perceived hierarchy on the totem pole. To so desire that a group be subjugated on the basis of love. Really?

  17. QueerNE
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 2:35 pm | Permalink

    A lot of homosexuals disagree with same-sex marriage, Zack, because they disagree with the institution of marriage altogether. Stop trying to pull allies where are none to be had.

  18. QueerNE
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 2:46 pm | Permalink

    However, I am NOT one of those homosexuals. So let's not open up that topic for debate here.

  19. Zack
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 6:27 pm | Permalink


    I have sources that say otherwise buddy.

  20. Zack
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 6:29 pm | Permalink

    The blog is a tad dated but it's definitely worth reading.

  21. Zack
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 6:33 pm | Permalink

    Though the person is a little vulgar and a bit misguided in some of his writing.

  22. Zack
    Posted February 15, 2012 at 6:45 pm | Permalink

    This one is better.

  23. Louis E.
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 2:17 am | Permalink

    What about

    In any event,for homosexuals to stop being "gay" (i.e. inclined to identify with and claim the right to gratify their same-sex sexual attraction) is trivial,it only takes a little mental clarity "being gay" is about hiding from.

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